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EXPRESS YOUR LOVE IN TIME

2008-07-20T20:58:00.003+05:00

When U Were Only 5 Yrs Old, I Said I Love U...

U Asked Me: "What Is It?"

When U Were 15 Yrs Old, I Said I Love U....

U Blushed.. U Look Down And Smile..

When U Were 20 Yrs Old, I Said I Love U....

U Put Ur Head On My Shoulder And Hold My Hand.. Afraid That I Might Dissapear..

When U Were 25 Yrs Old, I Said I Love U....

U Prepare Breakfast And Serve It In Front Of Me, And Kiss My Forhead and Said : "U Better Be Quick, Is's Gonna Be Late..

"When U Were 30 Yrs Old, I Said I Love U....

U Said: "If U Really Love Me, Please Come Back Early After Work..

"When U Were 40 Yrs Old, I Said I Love U....U Were Cleaning The Dining Table And Said: "Ok Dear, But It's Time For U To Help Our Child With His/Her Revision..

"When U Were 50 Yrs Old, I Said I Love U....

U Were Knitting And U Laugh At Me..

When U Were 60 Yrs Old, I Said I Love U....

U Smile At Me..

When U Were 70 Yrs Old. I Said I Love U....

We Sitting On The Rocking Chair With Our Glasses On.. I'm Reading Your Love Letter That U Sent To Me 50 Yrs Ago.. With Our Hand Crossing Together..

When U Were 80 Yrs Old, U Said U Love Me!I Didn't Say Anything But Cried..

That Day Must Be The Happiest Day Of My Life!

Because U Said U Love Me!!!!!!!

Please Express your Love & Appreciate Your Loved Ones.. Say "I Love You" To Them When U Have The Chance Now!!! Now!!! Now!!!

SMART LOVE LETTER....

2008-06-11T15:19:00.007+05:00

oK Guys after a Bigggggg Breakkk i came up with this great love letter..
Hope you guys like this.. :)

There's a couple and they love each other deeply however, the girl's father does not like the boy and want them stop their relationship...........and so......the boy wrote this letter to the girl.....he knows that the girl's father will definitely read this letter...

1 "The great love that I have for you
2 is gone, and I find my dislike for you
3 grows everyday. When I see you,
4 I do not even like your face;
5 the one thing that I want to do is to
6 look at other girls. I never wanted to
7 marry you. Our last conversation
8 was very boring and has not
9 made me look forward to seeing you again.
10 You think only of yourself.
11 If we were married, I know that I would find
12 life very difficult, and I would have no
13 pleasure in living with you. I have a heart
14 to give, but it is not something that
15 I want to give to you. No one is more
16 foolish and selfish than you, and you are not
17 able to take care for me and help me
18 I sincerely want you to understand that
19 I speak the truth. You will do me a favor
20 if you think this is the end. Do not try
21 to answer this. Your letters are full of
22 things that do not interest me. You have no
23 true love for me. Good-bye ! Believe me,
24 I do not care for you. Please do not think that
25 I am still your boyfriend."

Such a bad letter!! However, before handing over the letter to the girl, the boy told the girl to "READ BETWEEN THE LINES"..... meaning-only to read 1,3,5,7,9,11,13.....etc (odd number)

So try reading the odd numbered sentences again. Cute. ;)

TOOLS FOR PICKING-UP GIRLS

2008-05-12T12:05:00.004+05:00

We all know that approaching woman isn't easy. It can be embarrassing and downright difficult. But, if you know what you are doing and have faith in your own forces you can get the one you like.

Impressing a woman is not an easy task, especially if you don’t have a lot of experience with females. There are many components that go into impressing a woman.

If you want to learn how to impress a girl, then you should do your best to be positive. Keep in mind that smiles and jokes are great bonding mechanisms that you can use to impress a girl.

There is a charm and seductive attraction that some guys have, so they have all the girls they want. This magnet is called charisma, and it is very important if you want to attract the woman of your life. But, if this is a problem for you, you must try some tricks to pick-up the woman you want.

For example, use your dog to pick-up girls. You have a dog? Now its your chance. Take a walk with your dog on the place where you know your special one passes by every day. Any girl likes dogs. Small ones are very cute and the big ones make you look hot.

So, if you are with your dog out and suddenly your girl pass over. Make sure that she sees you. If it happens that your dog had a bad behavior and starts barking at her you might apologize and tell her to not take it personally. So, you can discus with her. Show her that your dog know some tricks and while your dog is sitting and rolling over you' re getting to know the girl.

Babies. Every woman love babies. Your friend is married and has a baby? Join your friend when he goes out with the baby and show interest by playing with the kid when she passes by you. Next day you can offer to watch out the baby for your friend and take him to a walk to show her you like kids. But make sure she has saw you in the day before with your friend to not think that the baby is yours. If the baby is crying when she passes by you, you might be lucky and she might offer her help to make the baby stop crying. So, you get to talk with her and may ask her for a date.

Use some magic tricks to attract her. You are seeing her every day and you don't have the courage to talk to her. First of all, relax. One of the biggest turnoffs for women is a guy who’s uptight. Just relax and you’ll be fine. After you start talking with her use some magic tricks to impress her and attract her. You may say that you are good at magick and you are offering to guess her future by reading her hand. She'll definitely laugh but if she's ok with this you may tell her that she will have a glorious future.

Don't forget to make her laugh. Laughter is all you need to attract women easily and quickly. If you are able to make her laugh any time and any places it will be easier to you to get the woman you are looking after for some long time.

Our First Wedding Anniversary

2008-05-06T17:12:00.010+05:00

How can I say what is too much for words?
A rainbow cannot fit into my heart.
Perhaps we should be musical as birds
Perched singing of our love with practiced art.
You cannot taste my happiness, or feel
A little of the chill of your caress.
No word or metaphor can make it real,
Nor song contain the truth I would express.
In my love there are mountains miles high,
Valleys rainbow carpeted, and wide
Enough for clear, still lakes to steal the sky ...
R-R-R-R!!! I cannot tell you what's inside!
So you must turn to what you feel for me,
And read therein my tender rhapsody.
Reach deep, my love, and I will be there, too:
You have me in your heart, as I have you.

Ever since you tiptoed in to my life

You have filled my days with love, laughter and many special moments

Sweet Heart...I feel so blessed to have you in my life

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY LOVE

Men's Killer Dating Mistakes and how to avoid it !

2008-04-28T20:51:00.006+05:00

Once you are good at meeting women online,or anywhere for that matter…

The next step is to be able to qualify the lady quickly. By qualify I mean to decide whether to see her again and allow her into your life. This is a very important skill for many reasons.

Here is the Killer mistake a lot of men make!

They spend too much time with a woman they should have "disqualified" 20 minutes after they met her. Mainly because they're glad to meet any woman who shows an interest in them.

What's the best way to avoid the pain and hassle of a bad partner? To be able to disqualify a future partner!Not easy I know.

See, the men that are good with women, don’t waste their time and energy on someone they instinctively know is going to be trouble. These guys have good qualifying skills, being able to move on quickly from un-responsive or unsuitable women. Then spending their time with only highly qualified dates.This is ‘effective time management’ for producing the best results!

So how do you qualify you ask?Mmmmhhh, good question and a skill not practiced by many.

Let’s look at it and give an example.

What men good with women do is to have clearly defined criteria and as soon as they identify a trait that is outside of their criteria, they politely discontinue interest and move on.

You need to know what your desired outcome is, Whether it is finding one lady for a permanent one on one committed relationship. Or you may want adventure and good times without too much commitment. If you don't decide your desired outcome, you can't define your ideal dating partner. Once you do know your outcome, however, the next step is to define the criteria of the "ideal dating partner."

Once you have that criteria defined, you want to as Quickly as possible find out if a woman fits that criteria. If she doesn’t, then you need to spend your time identifying those who do. This is where most men make the ‘Killer mistake.’

They stick with a woman they should "disqualify" , hoping she'll develop the traits they're looking for. If she doesn't fit your criteria, decide and move on quickly. Then spend your valuable time and energy finding one who does.

Heres a common example. If you're looking to be married, and you're dating a woman who says, "I just want to have some fun and meet people, and if it goes further, we'll see what happens,"then you need to disqualify her. She's looking for fun and adventure, not marriage, so she’ll be hard work to change to the traits you are looking for. And waste your valuable time…Fair enough? So you’ll need to find and spend time with the type of women that suits your criteria. Write your criteria down and look at it BEFORE you send kisses, winks and emails at online dating sites.

If you just want to date and meet as many women as possible, Your criteria can be small. However this Gets frustrating and disappointing as you are not spending quality time with quality women. Then a Year has gone by and you’ve had a lot of fun, but still not a really special, high quality woman in your life, that I’m sure you desire…

So the key to avoid the ‘killer mistake’ with online dating or any dating, is to define what YOU WANT.Then put as much time and energy as you can with women who fit that criteria, quickly moving on from women who don't. As hard and harsh as that may be, your success with women will be a direct result of how you manage your time! This will lead you to finding the type of woman who you want and look forward to spending time with.

This leads to a feeling of well being, success and contentment.

Good luck, I hope you’ve got value from this article :))

The Logic Of FEMALES – or Lack There Of

2008-01-24T09:55:00.000+05:00

Many males complain that they don't understand females. Many females complain that they don't understand males. We also have the classic saying that men are from mars and women are from Venus. Physically both sexes are very similar and are of the same species so what is the problem?

After much reading on the subject, there seems to be a general consensus that there is a fundamental difference in the way men and women think. The bottom line is that men think with logic but women think with emotions. This is why a male gets so frustrated with a females sometimes irrational behavior.

Additionally, a female rarely says directly what she wants. Instead, she will use reverse psychology by asking the male a series of questions until she gets the desired answer. If she does not get the desired answer she will take the huffs and give the male 'the cold shoulder treatment'. She thinks this will alert the male that something is wrong and he will do what she wants….with out actually telling him :(

Meanwhile the male is left dazed and confused as to what happened. After which an argument is usually required to get to the bottom of the problem. The whole situation could have been avoided if the female had stated directly what she wanted in the first place.

When asked why they do this, most women will either answer that they don't realize they're doing this or they simply don't know why. Many an argument could be avoided if what came out of a girls mouth was the same as the thought that was processed in her brain. But alas, it is not.

The classic example is a couple driving along a road. The female is hungry so she says to the male 'would you like to get something to eat?' The male replies 'no thanks I'm not hungry at the minute' and keeps driving. She then takes it thick because she didn't get the answer she was looking for. If she had said 'I'm hungry, pull in at the next shop so I can get some food' he would have done just that without question.

This all stems back to the fact that a female thinks with her emotions, not logic. This is why a male cannot understand a female rational. Males cannot read between the lines. They are not psychic or clairvoyant and they need everything spelled out to them in black and white.

Males often also complain that females are moody, have mood swings and show irrational or erratic behavior. This is especially apparent in times of stress, emergencies or significant events where body chemicals and emotions are highly stimulated.

Because a females behavior is affected by her emotions and her emotions are affected by her body chemistry and her body chemistry is in a state of flux from one month to the next, it can only be expected that a female would exhibit erratic behavior that is a mystery to a man whose body does not go through a constant monthly cycle of change. Re-read that last paragraph guys if it went over your head.

Unfortunately this behavior is genetically built into a female’s body. So sorry guys, you are going to have to live with it and while you can't get rid of it, you can at least be aware of it and try to understand it.

So in short, guys need to try to interpret better what a girl is saying, as it may not be exactly what she means. Girls need to try better to say exactly what they mean, if they want their guy to do what they want, without playing head games with them. Whether this is actually possible (as it goes against our genetic programming) is another case entirely.

10 Steps to Be a Better Husband

2008-01-22T08:22:00.000+05:00

Everyone worries too much about bills, getting the kids off to school, and why the dog keeps peeing on the carpet. It's time to light that fire again and remind her of all the reasons why she married you to begin with. Here are 10 steps that will get you on your way to husband of the year.

1) Take an interest in something your wife is really passionate about.
This can be especially tough for guys, because we generally feel that if someone else has interests that differ from ours, they're morons. It's not an easy task, and being able to show interest in something that matters to someone you love shows growth—and that's terrifying. Good, but terrifying. Accomplish this and you'll make her feel better about herself, and you get better insight into what makes her tick.

2) Put the kids to bed.
Once a week give her the night off and put the kids to bed by yourself. Let her take a hot bath, read a book, or check gossip on the Web and forget about the kids. It ranks somewhere between low-end jewelry and a Hawaiian vacation.

3) Learn to apologize.
This is the easiest one, and the hardest one. A marriage is a marathon, and we all fly off the handle too quick or let our temper get the best of us sometimes. When you're wrong, it's best to step up and apologize. It's amazing how fast "I'm sorry" can defuse a stupid argument about something you can't even remember.

4) Thank her for putting up with you.
Every once in a while, just thank her for putting up with you. That's all you have to say. Don't launch into a list of your faults, or the story about coming home two days late from that Vegas bachelor party. Just thank her, and let her know that you understand that you're not the easiest person in the world to live with.

5) Clean up after yourself.
Take care of that late night snack or morning cereal bowl. Setting them in the sink is one thing, but go that extra mile and actually put them in the dishwasher. After all, no one enjoys scraping bacon dip off a bowl that's been sitting too long or smelling the chili from the night before. A beer bottle on the counter the next morning is even worse.

6) Make time for just the two of you.
Take her on a date once a month. Surprise her by arranging child care, ordering a pizza for the kids, and getting a sitter. She will be so thrilled at your ability to take care of the details that reservations at the best restaurant in town aren't even necessary. The fact that you love her enough to do this would make a Big Mac taste like cracked crab.

7) Groom yourself.
Don't embarrass her when you venture out of the house. Check the ears, nose, neck and yes, feet for hair or other growths that shouldn't be there. She not only wants you to impress her friends by how you act, but also by how you look.

8) Get away from the family.
Yep, you're getting a free pass. This takes a left turn from the others, but it's essential. Get away from all your responsibilities and go camping or on a golf outing with the guys. You'll laugh, relax, and recharge your batteries. And all three will make you a much better husband when you return.

9) Deal with your side of the family.
Help your wife set expectations with your side of the family when it comes to making plans. Don't make her inform your parents that they won't be seeing their grandkids on Christmas this year—pick up the phone and do it yourself. Dealing with extended family can be a huge stress throughout the year, and you don't want the burden to fall entirely on her.

10) Don't lose your dating manners.
Remember, she's your wife, not one of your buddies. Don't burp during dinner, or squeeze one out during the movie as she's reaching for the popcorn. You wouldn't have done that while you were dating, and you shouldn't do it now. Continue to try and impress her. Do everything you can to keep the fire alive, and fight the urge to let the passion die. Find the new, hot place to eat or take her to see a cool band that's in town. Have fun, laugh, and make sure you tell her how great she looks.

LET'S HEAR IT: Did we leave anything off the 'be a better husband' list?

Proposal-Some tips to propose to your dream man

2008-01-21T09:16:00.000+05:00

It is probably the time for conformation of your love. The sweetest moment of your life. I suggest tips to make your conformation successful.

Place of proposals:
Privacy is the best companion during proposal occasions. Make sure that you and your stay alone. Get to a place in silence because your voice should be in a low shrill that conveys your love on him. Beach,parks,Church or temples or at your home if you are dare enough. Hotel or restaurant are the best place for proposals.

· Think of a dim light and silence prevails around you. Candle with a crisp yellow flames enlighten your face, then mention marriage in the wonderful afterglow.

Notable points during proposals:

*Firstly, don't think you're all alone - 9% of proposals are from women to men, and 80% of men would accept a proposal from a woman.

*If you really do want to, make sure the answer is going to be yes. I have never met a couple who have survived the answer to a proposal being no. And remember, proposals aren't the answer to dodgy relationships

*Remember that actions speak louder than words. Show him what a great lifetime partner you could be through thoughtful actions, sincerity, kindness and other appealing traits.

*Do NOT do it if you've known the fellow for less than six months, exactly the point at which your rose-tinted specs will convince you both to say yes, before you discover his four previous convictions and his credit card bill.

*Don't get down on one knee, especially if you're in stilettos. Women rarely look good in this position and you may find his head tilting down your breasts. Plus, if you're already doing the asking, you don't want to look particularly craven

*At a maximum try to see his eye keen look for proposal reaction, Eyes are the best emotion expresser than words, but words convey to our satisfaction

*Try to make use of feb 14th(valentiens day). if you lose your nerve on February 14th, you could drop back to the more traditional methods, like mooching very slowly past jewellery shops (remember: men are stupid), asking him whether he likes gold or platinum...... ;-)

*Proposing to her on her birthday is another great way to go about it. And another positive aspect of it, she probably won't notice that you forgot to get her a birthday present.

Make a Kiss More Passionate…

2008-01-20T10:04:00.000+05:00

Kissing is something that most couples do. Kissing well and with passion, however, is far less common. All too often, people fall into boring ruts and monotonous techniques that make kissing an undesirable prelude of more exciting activities to come. This is especially true for couples who have been together for awhile. To keep kissing fun or to rekindle the flame that was once there, observe the guidelines below.

1) What you do right before a kiss will set the mood. Gaze into their eyes and pay your sweetie a romantic compliment.

2) Hold your partner firmly, but gently in your arms. Put one arm around their back and put the other around the base of their head.

3) Occasionally, put both of your hands on your partner's cheeks to intensify the moment.

4) Kiss other places than the mouth. Add variety and intimacy by breaking away to kiss the cheek, forehead, neck, or anywhere else you feel is appropriate.

5) While maintaining a slow rhythm is essential to establishing intimacy, occasional bursts of intensified and quick movements (with tongue and hands) lasting several seconds will increase the passion.

6) Break the lip lock every few minutes to make a compliment about your partner's kissing ability, passion, or how sexy they are.

7) Location will determine the intimacy of the moment. You will have trouble creating a sensual moment in a busy school hallway with people walking by. Isolated areas are the best place to unleash your passion.

8) Use your hands to freely caress your partner's body. You can caress the hair, stroke their back, etc.

HOW TO ATTRACT A WOMEN

2008-01-19T13:29:00.000+05:00

Instructions:
*Ask her about herself, her ambitions, her life. Be interested. It's a rare woman who wants to sit around all night listening to a man talk about himself. And the more you try to impress her with your tales of adventure, the less impressed she'll be.

*Be presentable. Women are notorious accessorizers, and whether she'll admit it to you or not, you are an accessory. Other women will judge her on her choice. A clean, good-smelling man with well-fitting clothes is a real prize.

Make eye contact. A lot. And smile - in a friendly way. Don't leer.

*If your are so close enough to give her a chocolate,make it as a practice that you share a chocolate daily.. A recent survey says that most of teen aged girls are adicted to chocolates much..

*Be a gentleman. It's a myth that chivalry is dead, right? There are just a few women out there messing it up for the rest of us who really do like to have doors held open for us.

*Learn to dance. Women will flock to you - all of them will be impressed.

*Be funny without being crude. It's an art.

*Compliment her. Notice her shoes or her watch - something that shows you're paying attention. We'll change our clothes six times before we leave the house; it's nice to find someone who appreciates the final choice.

*It's hard for a woman not to be impressed with a man who is impressed with her. If you really like her, tell her so. You don't have to make a big deal about it, just let her know you admire her.

*Build your lover a web page telling them why you love them so much. Mention special moments and add some images and cool links to topics that interest them. Surf the web with them one day and just "stumble upon it". Or have someone send them an anonymous email with the link inviting them to the page.

*Contact her family and ask if there was anything she always wanted when she was a little girl.For example if she always wanted a porcelain doll, buy one for her birthday. She will not only appreciate the gift but also the fact that you were thoughtful enough to find out what she always wanted.

*Create a loving nickname for your partner. This could be the name she was called by her family when she was a little girl or something that is special just for the two of you.

*Give her some special gift such , Buy your partner a gold fish in a bowl and give it to her with a card saying,“Of all the fish in the sea,you're the fish for me!”

#Phone and cell phones are the mojor device which helps in devoloping a relationship between you and her.. There some facts to handle while talking to her too..

A general fact: for some reason we want a phone call right after we've last seen you. It's the initial separation where we get insecure. So call that night, or call the next day. Then you can take a break for a couple days if you want.

Another general fact: Not all girls like to chat on the phone. Or want to be called every day. Remember to read cues.

A general fact for me, I have no idea if it applies to other people: I HATE being told exactly when you're going to call. I swear I will purposely leave the house between 5 and 5:15 if you tell me that that's when you're going to call. For some reason it's just way too confining.

And I hate being told that you're going to be home between 8 and 10case I want to call you. Don't do it. I won't call. Just leave the whole thing open. 'I'll call you tonight' if you must; 'I'll call you later' even better.

The scenario: You woke up with her this morning. The rule: Call her that night. Weekday, weekend, doesn't matter. If you spent all day with her afterwards you're off the hook, but must call the next day.

The scenario: You visited for the weekend from out of town. The rule: Call as soon as you get home to let her know you got home alright. No exceptions.

The scenario: You just got home from being with your friends, you're drunk, you're thinking about her. The rule: Call her. Drunken phone calls are so much fun. And girls like to know that you're thinking of them when you're drunk. This will also earn you lots of points if you're actually out of town for the weekend and you still call her late Sat. night. BUT be careful with this one. Only do this if you're confident that the girl likes you too and confident that the girl isn't the kind of person who'll get psycho jealous just 'cause you went and had fun without her. (If she's that kind of person you don't want to date her anyway. . .)

The scenario: It's Sunday night. The rule: You call. Always call on Sunday night.

Secrets to Spicing Up Your Love Life

2008-01-14T11:49:00.000+05:00

Most everyone knows how important is to maintain sensual intimacy with your partner. It's fairly safe to say that if there is dissatisfaction in the bedroom, there is a certain degree of dissatisfaction within the relationship. However, finding ideas to help keep things stimulating, interesting or just plain new can sometimes feel more like a chore than something to look forward to. This is especially true if you add in long work hours, major family changes or other life stresses you may currently be dealing with. Regardless of your situation, intimacy between each partner should always stay a high priority. Below are three main secrets to making your love life amazing. So… when you're ready to spice things up, these ideas will help get you started.

Allude to Great Times to Come

Anticipation is a very handy sensual weapon at your disposal. It can generate a kind of desire that is difficult to match. Stoke the fires of passion by sending an e-mail or leaving a letter telling your partner to look forward to certain events. Even more seductive; leave a picture that shows what they can look forward to.

A Grand Greeting

We all want to know we were thought about during the day, and most of us love surprises. Pair the two together and you have a potent aphrodisiac. Before your partner gets home, plan a surprise seductive greeting. It can be anything from a simple naked welcome to a planned love hunt with clues for finding you at a special place in your home.

Do Something Out of the Ordinary

Schedules, routines, and our daily life habits can make life seem a little predictable. Keep the fun element in your sex life by mixing things up every now and then. Don't feel pressured to try something new every time. Just keep things simple and once or twice a month, do something a little extra special to say your relationship is a priority.

15 Ways To Feel SeXXXy

2008-01-13T15:40:00.000+05:00

Wear lingerie that flatters you.

Wear silk boxers.

Do your makeup and hair.

Work out.

Wear sexy clothing.
Accept compliments regarding your looks and abilities.

Learn more about pleasing your partner.

Be the dominant one in your next love-making session.

Plan at least one sensual experience a week for your love.

Take a shower together.

If you're unsure about how to do something, become knowledgeable about it. Confidence is an incredible aphrodisiac.

Allow yourself to feel sexy.

Don't worry about your appearance. Everyone has flaws, just no one else cares about them as much as you do.
Love your partner without abandon.
Dance seductively with your partner.

10 Ways to Put Passion BACK in the Bedroom

2008-01-12T12:18:00.000+05:00

Are you ready to take your passion to a new level? These tips are sure to take just about any relationship from ho-hum to WOW! Some ideas may seem like basic romance… but let's be honest… when was the last time you ACTUALLY did them? That's right… the only way for this to work is to put the ideas into practice. Try all 10 and see what happens!

Take a hot shower or bath together.

When you are in the bath or shower, keep close physical contact. Wash each other and whisper in their ear the things you specifically love about making love to them.

Share a romantic dinner in front of the fireplace.

Nothing speaks romance like sharing a meal in front of the glow of a burning fire. It's even better if you're nude or barely covered with lace and silk. Make sure the dinner you share is conducive to a romantic setting. Food that can easily be eaten with the least amount of utensils is usually your best bet!

Keep constant close physical contact when you are not at home.

Keeping a sparked connection throughout the night is one of the most effective ways to keeping your partner passionate about you. A hand on their thigh, a whisper in their ear or a kiss on the neck are all great for reminding your partner what's waiting at home.

A long, passionate kiss.

How often do you really just express your desire in a kiss? When you first start dating it's usually one of the only ways to express your desire. Refresh your kissing skills by every so often catching your partner off-guard with a weak-in-the-knees passionate kiss.

Leave a sexy note in the morning telling them to have nothing on, but the radio when you get home.

They'll be thinking about it all day at work! Want to keep your partner's mind on you ALL day? Do this idea! You can even go a step further and tell them what's in store for them as well!

Feed each other sensually suggestive finger foods.

The best way to feed each other? Naked, of course! Set the tone for an incredible lovemaking experience with a little forethought and some of their favorite tender treats.

Slow, sensual massage, complete with massage oil.

If your hands slowly massaging every part of their body can't turn them on… well, you need more than these tips to jumpstart your sexual relationship! Create new sensations with the addition of props such as a feather, fur mitten or a metal chain.

Read your partner an erotic bedtime story.

The best encounters are those we don't plan on. Tell your partner you'd like to read them a story. Without letting them see the book (maybe slip a book cover over it) begin to delight their ears with a sensual story made perfect for two!

Write a sexy letter describing everything you'd like to do to them.

Sometimes it's difficult to actually speak out loud the things we enjoy about sex with our partner. Leave no doubts about your attraction and get them ready for some loving with a very in-depth description about what you enjoy doing to them!

Study a new sexual practice such as tantric sex or the kama sutra together.

Expand your sexual horizons and learn new ways to turn each other on. There are many, many sexual techniques you can learn or sexual practices to study. Get two books, one for each of you, on a particular subject relating to sex. Agree on a pre-determined time frame to be done with the books. On one agreed night, one partner will give a full body "report" on what they learned. On another night the other partner will do the same. Compare notes…

GOING IN FOR THE GOODNIGHT KISS

2008-01-10T15:59:00.000+05:00

Nobody wants to be rejected. So how do you know when it's alright to go in for the first goodnight kiss? Well that's a very difficult call to make since every woman/man is different. As a male, I will tackle this topic from the perspective of the man.

Body language is a great way to tell if they're into you. Lets begin by looking at some of the things women do that show they're interested during the conversation:

Playing with and/or twirling hair (this is a tough one and can be confused with a simple case of OCD)

Raising their shoulders straight up and leaning towards you

Hands are open with her palms facing up and outwards

Lots of giggling

You know she's interterested...now what?

It's time to go in for a kiss. Since she's in to you, there will be many opportunities throughout the night to make your move. If you wait until the last minute and hesitate (at the door or end of the date), you pretty much lost your chance. So be on the safe side and try to do it about midway through the date.

So what if you're not sure?

Just go for it! What's the worst that can happen...they say no? You have everything to gain and nothing to lose; you'll probably never see them again anyways.

Here are three different approaches to the goodnight kiss:

Silent: Making eye contact and then leaning in about 90% of the way

Polite: Asking them if it's alright to give them a kiss

Brave: Telling them that they have nice lips and asking if you could kiss them

So you chicken out...now what?

Nothing. Opportunities come and go...it really comes down to the person and how they choose to handle the situation. Some people can care less, while others take it harder. But the worst is when you regret not going in for the kiss when you know you should have. It happens to us all...we meet someone we really hit it off with or maybe a friend we always had the biggest crush on but never the nerve to let them know. Before you know it they're gone; it's like clockwork, they either meet someone or move across the country. And in the end all you're left with are those two dreaded words, what if?

THE BIGGEST MISTAKES MEN MAKE IN A RELATIONSHIP

2008-01-08T08:42:00.000+05:00

Relationships are difficult to sustain. Very few relationships sustain for long with both partners totally happy. Most people carry through a relationship without any joy.We all start our new relationships with hopes, dreams, and wonderful aspirations. But oftentimes, we see couples, or in our own relationships, where things turn sour. What can be done to keep a relationship strong and joyous?

Avoid this common mistakes.

1. Not investing enough time in your relationship

2. "Housework" is not just for women. You can learn how to do laundry, vacuum the house and wash the dishes if you haven’t learned in the past.

3. Your partner is NOT your Mom and is not responsible to help you remember what it takes to keep harmony and peace in your relationship.

4. Thinking everything is about you and for you. Basically being selfish in a relationship.

5. Storming out of an argument without an agreement to at least come back later for resolution

6. Not listening too and supporting your partner’s ideas even if you don’t believe in them

7. Constantly talking smack about her family members. You knew who they were before you became involved with her and whether you like it or not, they are there to stay. Please remember that blood is thicker than water. That doesn’t mean you can’t voice an opinion occasionally, it just means don’t constantly rail on her family even if you are right. You’ll plant a seed in her that may grow into a thorn bush.

8. Not taking your time in bed with her to allow her to grab a piece of heaven. Men want quick affection, sex, and security with a woman. And then we want the space and relaxed distance. Women want space and relaxed distance. THEN they want affection, sex, and a build-up of trust and security.

9. Not learning to be emotionally available. Women aren’t asking you to stop being a man, just talk about who you are, where you came from, past history and future dreams.) If this is hard for you, seek help or join a group.

Counseling can be difficult for men. It is traditionally based on talking and sharing. These are more conducive for women. But there are male counselors out there and you don't have to go to just anyone. You have the power of choice. Going to counseling is not a sign of weakness. Not going is more a sign of weakness, because you are avoiding the real problems and stand to lose your love relationship.

Also there are another mistakes that a men should avoid:

* Never tell any woman that she has put on weight, even if you think it only makes her sexier, keep silent. Most women are fiercely fighting against extra pounds - they are dieting, taking pills, and work out until they faint.

* Don’t nag at her for spending the whole day and a fortune in a beauty parlor. For girls a new hairstyle or fresh manicure symbolizes a new life.

* Never criticize her cooking skills, even in the most delicate way ("My mom usually adds eggs in the pancake batter"). Your mom has nothing to do with your relationship.

* Never praise another woman’s looks if your girlfriend is around. Beware that the mere fact that divas of this caliber exist on the same planet makes the life of every woman miserable. Your girlfriend is concerned about her body, no matter how perfect she seems to you.

* Don’t take your girlfriend to a soccer (hockey, golf, etc.) tournament. She will either sit there bored and ruin your fun, or will get to like the sport and in no time she will know more about soccer (hockey, golf, etc.) than you do, which will piss you off eventually. This way she will deprive you of one of our main guys’ pleasures.

* In most of relationships both partners try to avoid conflicts .Conflict includes such examples as arguments, differences, and variances. The Truth is, we are all different. That's what makes each one of us special. But, sometimes we try to avoid our partner. This is much like number one on the list but is more keenly felt by the partner. Worst is that we blame others (or other things) and deny our own self-responsibility. When we avoid responsibility, we typically express it as blaming others, usually our partner, and try to make them change and conform. This is a form of manipulation and an avoidance of Self. Many of us refuse to get help.

If you had the methods and the tools to keep your relationship alive, loving and healthy you don't need any advices but if not you should avoid this mistakes.

WAT DO WOMEN WANT FROM A MAN

2008-01-07T11:34:00.000+05:00

It's no secret that men and women are different. It is no news that they look for different things in a relationship. They all want different things, different men for their different personalities. What do women want from men? There are as many answers as there are types of women: young, old, fat, skinny, talkative, quiet, beautiful, not so beautiful.

One thing that is clear is that everyone looks for a perfect relationship. Men are remarkable by their caution and carefulness. Women though are much more fussy. When it comes to choosing men, they not only have a greater list of requirements, they're also keen to make the effort to help the guy change. But despite their striving for talking things through, most men still struggle to understand exactly what women need to be happy with them.

What do women want? They just want to be happy like us. They just have a different way to show it. If you learn their language, listen when you’d rather speak, hug instead of just walking away, tell the truth till it hurts, be a man she can depend on and love her like you love yourself. You’ll no longer ask what women want, they’ll be asking you what you want and give it to you.

Here are some true things that we can say safely women want from men

Value:

Women want to know that their man is someone other women would want. They want a certain "gotta have" quality about their man. This is why, when we go out with a girlfriend, women give us looks and always seem more interested. It’s annoying but true: the easiest way to get a girl, is to have one already!

Structure:

A woman wants stability, balance, a sense of order. She wants someone she can rely on. You say you’re going to be home at 9:00, you be home at 9:00. You are late? Call. The hardest thing for us guys is to differentiate between support and total control. Creating a foundation and stability doesn’t mean trying to solve all the problems to the point you disempowering the one you love. Your love is not a crutch but a bond. A bond where dependability is synonymous with trust.

Security:

Women want to feel safe with a man. They want to know that everything’s gonna be all right. This doesn’t mean you have to be huge and strong, or have millions in the bank. It just means you have to talk reassuringly to her, look after her safety, and assure her when she needs it that things are going to be OK.

Love:

Love them most of all. Let it all out. Let it all out every day, every minute of every second of every day. Be love, crawl up inside of it and approach every problem with the question what would love do now? If you do this, fear will never enter your life.

Appreciation:

Women DO want to feel appreciated. They just don’t want to be obsessed over. Guys, show interest in a woman, and make her feel beautiful and wanted - but don’t slave over her and make her feel like you can’t live without her. That’s just pathetic, and drives women away.

Don’t lie:

A woman can forgive a lot of things but she won’t put up with a snake in the grass liar. If once she caught you that you lied her she would never have more trust in you. Lie to a woman you are dissing her. Tell the truth, you live to play another day.

Hug her:

Hug her in the morning, hug her before you leave to work, e-mail her a hug and hug her ten times when you get home. You must make her feel loved and protected.

Smile:

Women don't like boring men .Be someone who smiles, who doesn't take life too seriously, who lets loose. That shows a lot more value than a guy who’s stiff and serious - even if he is good looking or wealthy.

A woman wants a man with a purpose. It's not necessary to have a lot of money and a great car but they do want to be headed towards success. They do want to living up to your potential.

So, as a summary women like to be understood, happiness, respect and they also want honesty. But, as the time goes by, the woman wishes change because she is setting new goals. Why men can’t figure women out is because they are a masterpiece in progress.

7 FUNNY REPLIES THAT WORKS ONLINE

2008-01-03T16:47:00.000+05:00

If you have spend some time talking online, you know there are some question that women ask you all the time. How to answer to these question to make sure that you are getting her attention and interest? Just try using next lines:

1.When she is questioning you about your marital status just say:

“Well, my dog hates the way I do coffee, it hopes I will find someone else that will make him a coffee every morning”

2. What is your age?

“I am a little child... when I am sleeping, a mature man when I am making decisions and an exploring teenager when I have the opportunity to talk with an interesting woman”

3. Do you have children?

It is a simple question to reply but you can say more than yes/no, and earn some points. So..If you Do Have Kids you can answer “Oh yes, I have...(a 2 years old boy), he is a nice kid, and he is very responsible for my haircut.” :)

If you don't have kids: “No, I don't have kids yet. I'm still looking for the woman willing to take the risk of having good looking kids, like me. :))“

4.What happened with your ex ?

This is a hard question, don't give specific details, be serious and pass quickly over this subject. You can say something like : “I never joke about my love life. We just didn't match with each other/We couldn't pass over some problems together. and decided to go on on separate ways.”

5. What are you doing for living? What is your job?

Now, maybe you are hating your job but don't let her know that. Be enthusiastic and positive: “I am working in (domain) and I really like to wake up every morning with such a job. Sometime I forget putting my socks on in my hurry to reach at work”.

6. What kind of relationship are you after?

“I really want to find someone that can take me as I am, someone that can accept how gorgeous I am. :) “.

7. What are you doing in your spare time?

“I haven't to much spare time but I rely like to... (read GOOD books / watch GOOD TV Shows / listen GOOD music / share GREAT time with my friends).” You have to be selective and a little demanding... make her understand that you are not just wasting your time anyhow and with anybody available. So she will feel good that you are spending YOUR time with her.

The idea is that you have to be funny but serious at the same time. Make her curious, with every question you are answering her you have to make her want to know more about you. Just be different, be original. Good luck and have fun!

10 TIPS ON HOW TO GET THAT GUY

2007-12-30T15:50:00.000+05:00

Show the Guy That You Are Vulnerable

Men need to feel needed, yes it may be from the dinosaurs but it does still apply. I do not mean that you have to be weak, give in to whatever he wants, and put up with any way he treats you I am not suggesting that. Many men like strong women, but strong women who put out that they do not need a guy often end up alone. It is fine to be strong but try and temper it with "ok here is a situation where I can be vulnerable". Men have a strong protective instinct, though they may rarely show it.

Let The Guy Think That He Is Doing The Hunting

Men love the thrill of the chase, it is in their genetic makeup, it is definately a male thing. Play a little secretive and hard to get, and men will flock like bees to honey.That means having a sense of your own worth, men hate women who are clingy. They are not props, they hate boosting a womens ego all the time. In fact men want a real balanced person. Make him feel he wants to make the first move and do the chasing. Women learn to manipulate men at a very early age. By the age of five most girls have learnt how to wrap their father around there little finger.

"Let The Guy Think That He Is Mr Right Rather Than Mr Right Now!"

Stroke their egos, they are not a ticket to go out and pay all the time, let them know that you really value them as a person.

Laugh At His Jokes

This is imperative that a man feels he is funny and witty and is an extension of three, they are valued for their sense of humour. Where would we be in life without laughter.

Never Call Him After The First During The Next Week

If a guy is interested in seeing you again, trust me he will call you in the first week. He will do this even if he says he has to go out of town. If you call him, you come across as over-anxious. You appear desperate, and are more likely to scare the guy off. It is OK to ask him out the first time but not the second.

If You Are Dating Online Get A Professional Photo Taken At A Studio

When dating online you have to market yourself to be successful. A professional photographer will know how to get the best shots out of you and make you look your very best.

Don't Go Out With Your Girlfriends

In Large Groups, Some men feel that approaching a women in a large group is intimidating. Go out in smaller groups, and make it easier for an interested guy to approach you.

Approach Him

Be confidant enough to approach him and ask him if he wants to go for a coffee. If you're not sure whether he is gay or not, then approach him anyway.If he gives you the brush-over then you have lost nothing, but you can pat yourself on the back for taking the initiative, most men will be flattered by this.

You Like Him But He Is Ignoring You

Guys are insecure, and they want to feel liked, and popular. Start ignoring him for a while, not rudely, you don't have to make an issue out of it. Just look right through him, and he will start to be piqued. There is no guarantee here he may not take it any further, it may just boost his confidance, but you have not lost anything

Don't Appear To Be Desperate

Desperation is a real turn off for men. It is an indicator that a woman is going to start to get clingy, and that is not good. Appear yourself and show a friendly interest.

Improve Your Sex Life

2007-12-29T11:03:00.000+05:00

Does your sex life lack luster and imagination? Need a way to give it a kick start? Try one of the five ideas below guaranteed to inspire passionate play tonight!

Communicate

You'd be surprised to learn how many couples don't talk about what they want, or don't want, in bed. This is one area that can always be improved. Talk about your fantasies together, play a game of truth or dare or take turns telling each other what you'd like to do to the other person.

Read Together

Inspiration comes in many forms, and many times it is from a great book. Get yours going by starting a library of sensual books. Make sure your collection has a variety of topics such as how-to topics, prose and idea books.

Make A To Do Jar

Separately write twenty things you'd like to try. Cut them out and fold them up. Put the forty ideas in a jar. Each week, individually take out a slip of paper. Don't show each other your slips of paper. Before the week is up, secretly plan to do the idea on the paper with your partner. When you're done with the papers, make up new ideas you'd like to try.

Keep A Passion Diary

Go to a bookstore, and pick a journal you both like. Decide on a secret keeping place for the journal that no one else will accidentally discover. Take turns writing your passionate thoughts and desires to each other.

Try Something New

Get a book of positions. Each month sit down with your partner, and pick a position of the month. Spend the month practicing it, and different variations of the position until you find a favorite.

Signs that a woman is Interested

2007-12-27T08:10:00.000+05:00

I’ve read all the books that say, “If a woman tilts her head to the side, licks her lips, fondles her hair, and looks over her shoulder at you, there’s a 67% chance that she’s interested in you.”

Here’s what I’ve found:

The main sign signal that I look for now is, ‘Is she acting friendly to me?’

That’s it. Now, of course some women are more forward than others; but overall, if a woman is acting friendly and keeping up an interesting conversation, you’re usually doing pretty well.

The key is to KEEP GOING AND CONTINUE TO THE NEXT STEP ALWAYS.

I have to stop and explain this point.

Most men don’t realize that THEY NEED TO KEEP ADVANCING.

If your conversation is going well, ask for a phone number.

If you’re out for a walk and the conversation seems to be going well, reach over and kiss her.

If you’re at your house watching a movie and start kissing, take her hand and lead her to your bedroom...get the idea?

Keep advancing.
Women like this and expect it. If they’re not comfortable, they’ll let you know. But don’t worry. Just keep going and advance again at the next opportunity.

Don’t push – advance.

THE SECRETS OF PERFECT KISS

2007-12-25T08:02:00.000+05:00

Set The Mood

Set the mood by treating her like a queen. Take care of her every need so she can just lay back and let the day's stresses wash away. If it's your first date, just relax, take your time and make the entire date all about her (which means you have to tell her stuff about you too!) Look, she wants to feel like a million dollars, so treat her as though she is.

Pick The Right Situation

Take her out to a restaurant, for a moonlight walk, or cook dinner at home. Whatever the situation, create an ambience that's all about romance. Make sure the music is just right, give her your full attention, and if at all possible use candles! Candles are the secret-weapon of romantic guys everywhere. There isn't anyone who doesn't look mysterious, and glamorous by candlelight.

Sweet, Sweet, Breath And Soft, Soft, Lips

Guys, no one likes fish-breath! Or cigarette-breath come to that. Now wine-breath or chocolate-breath may just be OK, depending on the tastes of your partner, but you know what? To play safe, brush like a dentist! If you can't do that, then always have breath fresheners with you--any brand as long as they are peppermint or spearmint--and don't forget the lip balm.

Learn From The Masters

Too may guys dive straight in and have her pinned against the wall in three seconds flat. Look. She's most likely very tentative so be tentative too! She'll like that a lot. You must have watched the masters at work in those wonderful old classic movies starring Bogart and Cary Grant? It may take an entire 90 minutes to work up to THE kiss, but when it finally happens the sexual tension is just explosive! Well watch those movies again. Take note of the body language; the flashing eyes; the meaningful looks; the brushing of fingertips. What's NOT being said is louder--and way sexier--than any porn movie!

Nuzzle Her Neck And Kiss Her Face

Why do so many guys miss this amazing ace card? Unlike guys (most) women are slow starters. They take a while to warm up, and this is sort of kissing foreplay. Spend some time "investing" in the kiss to come.

Is it Love, Lust or Loneliness

2007-12-24T08:52:00.000+05:00

People talk about re-bound relationships as if it’s a dirty word, saying how can it possibly last, when it’s really just a replacement-date to get you over the last one, which went horribly wrong!

Can it be love?

Can a rebound relationship really be love? Yes, sometimes it is love, and in fact some people swear that love at first sight is real, tangible and for life. But it can also be lust or loneliness. Know what, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Revolving Door:

Relate to the revolving door of lovers in and out of your life? Familiar with the term 'Rebound', it's not always a nasty word. Each connection, no matter how fast-and-furious, serves in some way. Learn from it, don’t harbor regrets, and be thankful for the experience.

Love Sick Loneliness:

For some love-sick beings it means trying to fill the void of the past, Mr. or Mrs. Wonderful and the quicker the better. After breaking away from the illusive love you thought was going to last forever, its natural to want to fill that void by falling into the arms of the next charming lover.

Longing for Lust:

The hot and heavy physical act of lust, or even just a lustful feeling can be like an electric jolt replacing the numbness that often follows a breakup. If lets get physical works, it can be positive. But, keep it in perspective. If it’s a physical relationship, be honest with each other, and don’t expect anything else.

Relationship Deja Vu:

The reality for too many people is you fall right back into the arms of someone who is ever so familiar in looks, character or personality of the one you just left. If the reason why the last romantic adventure didn't last the distance hasn’t been resolved, then valuable lessons are still to be learnt. If an attitude change hasn’t taken place, then getting back on the same ole merry-go-round is unlikely to work.

Flawless and Faultless:

A rebound relationship can quickly fall apart if there are unrealistic expectations about how a love-mate is to be, look and act. And when they inevitably fall off the pedestal, disappointment sets in. Then, unfortunately, all too often a pattern of infatuation and resentment follows.

Of course, there's always the exception to these patterns and there are the lovers who do live happily ever after, but it's not without work, which includes nurturing their relationships with love, tenderness, trust and honesty. Don’t be fooled, to love and be loved, means putting focus, energy and attention into you and your love-mate.

Get Your Partner In The Mood

2007-12-23T10:22:00.000+05:00

Getting your partner in the mood for sexual romance can sometimes be difficult, especially when your partner is going through a stressful or hectic time. But, that shouldn't stop you from being sexually intimate. Below you'll find ideas geared to helping you find creative ways to initiate lovemaking, no matter what the situation may be.

Present your partner with a coupon book good for various sexual acts like: one hour of pure pleasure from me, oral sex like you've never had before, one fantasy come true, etc. Use your imagination, as well as try to pick things you know you're partner would like.

Write a short erotic story about the two of you. The best way to go about this is to write down a fantasy in story format. Mail it to your partner or leave it somewhere they can find it.

Similar to the above, create "I'd like to do to you" cards. On about 10 - 15 blank index cards, write different sexual things you'd like to do to your partner. Hide them for them to find (make sure kids or other family members won't get them).

Call your partner and talk dirty to him.

Don't give your partner the opportunity to say no. If you're both comfortable with this idea, when they come home or visit you, grab them, blindfold them and tie there hands together with a silk scarf. Make sure while you're making love that you take your time to pleasure them and show your love.

Buy a few books on lovemaking or print out a few articles on lovemaking from the Internet. Leave them in places where you know you're partner will see that you're reading them. Make it clear to them you're going to try some of these tips out on them when you're ready.

Touch can be a powerful sexual arousal technique. During the day touch your partner whenever possible. Do it as if it's something you'd do everyday. When you're sitting next to each other, place your hand on their thigh. When you're standing caress their back or stomach.
Go somewhere just for the sake of making love. For example, a hotel, a secluded area, etc.

Leave a note for your partner telling them you plan on making sweet, passionate love to them tonight so be prepared

Create a romantic interlude like this one: Silence Is Golden: A Sensual Romantic Evening.

How To Have Lots of Guys Chasing You

2007-12-22T09:54:00.000+05:00

Would you like to know how to have lots of men chasing you? If you are single, do you know the secrets of being irresistibly attractive? Would you like to have your choice of many great men so you can have the relationship of your dreams?
In truth, it isn't the wisest move for a woman to "wait" for a guy to "find" her. Finding each other needs to be a mutual choice. Both parties should take responsibility for whom they select to be with.

Chase does not mean stalking, seeking someone only for sex, or playing games to get your attention in order to exercise control over you. "Chase" in this article means:

*Madly attracted
*Vulnerable to you
*Seeking intimacy AND a lasting relationship
*Adores you
*Admires, respects, and could easily fall in love with you.

Being "chased" assumes that you will go places, be friendly, meet people, and reach out to others. If you keep yourself a secret, no one can find you and chase you.
If you want to have multiple choices of great guys who want to be with you, pay attention to the following known reasons that guys "chase" women...and fall in love with them.

* Your appearance
It needs to be polished and as attractive as possible without your obsessing about how you look all the time. Girls who sell themselves on looks alone always come up bankrupt. Appearance is important but it is just the beginning. Further...you do have control over how good you look.
Colors, clothes, hairstyle, and makeup are all under your control. You can get yourself to the gym and workout every day to have the best healthy body you are capable of. Whiten your teeth, get cosmetic dentistry if you need it or can afford it, and stand up straight. Poor posture is a major turnoff.
Finally, when you have done your best to look your best, shift your interest to other people, your work, or your other passions.

* Be friendly and talk to people.
Guys are attracted to women who pay attention to them, listen, and give appropriate compliments. Hold off on sharing the traumatic moments of your life--no one wants to hear those too soon. Get a counselor if you find that you must talk about them. Humor goes a long way. But keep it light and friendly--no put down, sarcastic, or bitter remarks. Those are not attractive.

* Depth
What attracts and holds a guy forever? Your level of committment to your work or your studies, your compassion for other people, and your dedication to a cherished cause. Loyalty, sensitivity, spirituality, and concerns about more than just the material life is very attractive.

* Confidence
This is the quality everyone says they need more of. How do you develop confidence? By doing things that make you feel proud of yourself. We're not talking about arrogance or feeling better than other people. Just quietly knowing that you have done a good job; that you have done the right thing even if it didn't matter; and that you are on purpose with your goals and values.

Develop and work on the above qualities and notice the line of guys forming who want to meet you, know you, and date you.

10 Tips For Better Sex

2007-12-17T08:18:00.000+05:00

Make it unexpected.Nothing takes away the monotony in a relationship like the unexpected! The next time you're not doing anything, initiate a little sex play.

Add ambiance to your love nest.The next time you plan on making love, light a few candles, spray a light scented fragrance and a put on some soft music. Ambiance can heighten just about any romantic situation.

Wear comfortable, but sexy lingerie.In order to feel sexy, you need to look it AND be comfortable. If you are uncomfortable with any part of your body, find lingerie that hides it or greatly compliments another feature. Confidence is a great aphrodisiac and is easier to attain in the bedroom when you look great!

Think about what your partner would like.To add a new level to your lovemaking, take your time pleasuring your partner. Add heightened interest by letting them know what you are doing. Speak romantically during the entire session as well.

Women, concentrate on only what you want.Believe it or not, one of a man's biggest turn ons is a woman turning on herself. The next time you make love to your partner, only do things that pleasure you. Just like in the above tip, the key is in letting him know that is what you are doing.

Make love in a new place.Add a bit of excitement and newness to your sex life by making love in a new place! Rent a hotel room, try a different room, make love in public... the possibilities are endless.

Without speaking, take your partner and make love to them.Silence can be an exhilarating turn on. This idea is especially effective when you do this as soon as your partner comes home.

Don't hold back your emotions.Be free to express yourself and your feelings when you make love. Voice how you're feeling and don't be too shy to do whatever you feel like doing.

Try using something new like ice or toys.While sex is great without any enhancements, it can definitely be worthwhile to try a few new things. A few ideas range from blindfolds, ice, toys, movies, etc.

Torment your partner with at least an hour of foreplay.Better yet, drag it out throughout the entire day. Suspense is a wonderful aphrodisiac and can greatly enhance your love making.

Tips for Married Couples

2007-12-17T08:11:00.000+05:00

There are many ways of showing love. Love and romance means much to a lot of people, but unfortunately many couples whether married or not are not pleased with this part of their relationship. In this specific area a marriage enrichment is often needed, especially for couples who have been married for some years. Although hearing the words, “I love you” is special and important, sometimes you wish you could tell your mate as well as hear from your mate those words, but in a more special and unique way. Here are some ideas of how this can be accomplished:

Rent his favorite movie, even if it is something you do not like, and plan an evening alone where you can be with him as he enjoys his special treat.

when she gets out of the shower, hand her a warm, cozy towel just heated in the dryer.
When you make him pancakes, first pour the words, “I Love You” on the griddle and cook for a minute to brown. Then, pour more batter over the words to create a round pancake. The result will be a pancake displaying those three special words when you flip it over.
While he is out of town, wash his car and surprise him by picking him up in a clean, shiny car at the airport.
Take her out to lunch.
Have his favorite breakfast on the table along with the morning newspaper.
Instead of bugging him to go to the grocery store with you, let him stay home.
Display your favorite picture of the two of you on the refrigerator.
Buy her a subscription to his favorite magazine.

Beyond telling your mate that you love them, that they are special, and having passion in your relationship, you should adore your mate and what they bring into the relationship. What this means is, appreciate and love them for the person they are, faults and all. This is true devotion to your mate and it demonstrates that you do not take them for granted.
Go online and find some internet resources regarding relationships and marriage, there are lots of them and many are free as well.

Honey..!! You are the One...

2007-12-15T13:13:00.000+05:00

What I have with him is worth it.

It is worth every lonely night, every tear I cry from missing him,

and the pain I feel from not having him close.

It is worth it because he is my one and only.

When I picture myself years from now, I see only him.

No matter how painful distance can be, not having him in my life would be worse.

FIRE WITHIN US......

2007-12-11T11:52:00.000+05:00

There is a fire within us..

that only needs a touch to bring forth flame.

Passion ignites...

when I hear you whisper my name.

My body shivers... oh...but not from cold...

but from the sweet anticipation...of a desire

that never seems to grow old.
I lay my head upon your chest..kiss your skin softly.

I breathe in the manly scent of you...it intoxicates me like wine...

making my senses whirl...or maybe it is the way your hands...

are softly caressing my back...making me melt...

yet every nerve is tingling...with the need of you.
You gently lift me up and softly kiss my forehead

Sending chills all down my spine

Can't wait the anticipation...Softly kiss up your body gently caress our lips...

My body fills with excitement and anticipation

Hands roaming each others bodies Filling the silkiness of your skin
My heart starts pounding from pleasure

As your fingers run over my treasures

Gently sliding the key in as you begin to turn

Gently stroking my body OHHHH MY GOD is all I could whisper...

Our passion increases...

Our souls ignited...

You lower down and kiss me passionately and

I know I am in Heaven

For I saw the flames burning in your eyes.

A Letter from an Employee to his Boss...

2007-12-11T10:17:00.000+05:00

One day an employee sends a letter to his boss asking for an increase in his salary!!!

Dear Bo$$

In thi$ life, we all need $ome thing mo$t de$perately.

I think you $hould be under$tanding of the need$ of u$ worker$ who have given $o much $upport including $weat and $ervice to your company

I am $ure you will gue$$ what I mean and re$pond $oon

Your$ $incerelyNorman $oh

The next day, the employee received this letter of reply

Dear NOrman

I kNOw you have been working very hard.

NOwadays, NOthing much has changed.

You must have NOticed that our company is NOt doing NOticeably well as yet

NOw the newspaper are saying the world`s leading ecoNOmists

are NOt sure if the United States may go into aNOther recession.

After the NOvember presidential elections things may turn bad

I have NOthing more to add NOw. You kNOw what I mean

Yours trulyManager

MaKe LOvE.......

2007-12-09T11:25:00.000+05:00

Oh, come with me

Take me in your arms

Kiss me long and deep

Feel my passion rise
Remove my clothes

Caress my soft skin

With your fingertips

Feel the softness Of my tender breasts

Beneath your hands
Touch them, stroke themSqueeze them, knead them

Cover them with kisses

Close your lips around the nipples

Feel their hardnessWith your tongue
Delve into me

With your hot tongue

Devour me

Taste my essence

As I scream your name...

Make love to me!

ThInGs A sWeEt GuY wOuLd Do ...

2007-12-08T11:37:00.000+05:00

1. Know how to make you smile when you are down.

2. Try to secretly smell your hair BUT you always notice.

3. Stick up for you but still be respectful of your independence.

4. Give you the remote control during the game.

5. Come up behind you, put his arms around you, squeeze you tightly against his chest, and whisper softly into your ear

6. Play with your hair.

7. His hands will always find yours.

8. Be cute when he really wants something.

9. Offer you plenty of massages.

10. Dance with you even if he feels like a dork.

11. Never run out of love.

12. Be funny, but knows when to be serious.

13. Realize he's being funny when he needs to be serious.

14......... Be patient when you take forever to get ready.

15. React so cutely when you hit him and it actually hurts.

16. Smile alot.

17. Plan a romantic date full of cheesy things he wouldn't normally do just b/c he knows it means alot to you.

18. Appreciate you.

19. Help others out.

20. Drive 5 hours just to see you for 1.

21......... Always give you a peck on the cheek when you depart from each other's company- even when friends are watching.

22. Sing even if he can't

23. Have a creative sense of humor.

24. Stare at you.

25. Call for no reason

26. Quit smoking, chewing, drinking, or drugs just b/c he loves you enough to quit!!

LETS HAVE A LITTLE LAUGH...

2007-11-20T12:55:00.000+05:00

Drivers Licence

A Mom is driving a little girl to her friends house for a play date.

"Mommy," the little girl asks,

"how old are you?"

"Honey, you are not supposed to ask a lady her age," the mother warns. It is not polite"OK," the little girl says, "How much do you weigh?"

"Now really," the mother says, "these are personal questions and are really none of your business."

Undaunted, the little girl asks, "Why did you and daddy get a divorce?"

"Those are enough questions, honestly!" The exasperated mother walks away as the two friends begin to play.

"My Mom wouldn't tell me anything," the little girl says to her friend.

Well," said the friend, "all you need to do is look at her drivers license. It's like a report card; it has everything on it."

Later that night the little girl says to her mother, "I know how old you are, you are 32."

The mother is surprised and asks, "How did you find that out?"

"I also know that you weigh 140 pounds."

The mother is past surprise and shock now. "How in heavens name did you find that out?" And," the little girl says triumphantly,

"I know why you and daddy got a divorce."

"Oh really?" the mother asks. "Why?"

"Because you got an F in sex."

Hehehe... Did you like this one... I liked it a lot.. :)

3 Thins Men Can't Resist in a Woman

2007-11-19T16:09:00.000+05:00

A Woman Who Smiles (More powerful than you might realize)

A woman who smiles makes it easier for a man to approach her by conveying an attitude of confidence and playfulness. Since many women are fearful of giving men the wrong impression they frequently guard their smiles.
While that approach is safer, it inadvertently sends the wrong message that she is someone who is overly cautious because they have been hurt.
In addition, smiling is a sign of acceptance. Men often need some signal that it is safe to approach a woman before they’re willing to a risk introducing themselves (unless they are intoxicated).

A Woman who Listens (and doesn’t dominate the conversation)

Men rarely get listened to, at least not beyond a few minutes. Most of the time a few minutes is all men really need. But since most men hate to be rejected, it is easier for them to keep conversations superficial. They expect most women to want to talk, rather than be willing to listen. If they happen to meet a woman who listens with her eyes (looks at him while he’s talking) as well as her ears, they are intrigued. Then, if she continues to listen and not take over the conversation, that’s the kind of woman that men can’t resist and will eventually marry

A Woman who dresses Feminine (Men are REALLY visual)

Everyone knows that men are visual. However, women often forget just how helpless guys are to what they see. The right visual stimulation can hypnotize a man. Women hear this and often become fearful. They mistakenly believe that men only notice perfect women.
Forget perfect! If you really want to be noticed by men, think colors, dresses and curves. Men basically like any woman who has that soft and cuddly quality. It isn’t that men don’t find women attractive in pants or when they are dressed comfortably. They don’t notice them as easily. It doesn’t catch their eye like earrings or long hair does.
Conversely, a powerfully dressed woman (think lots of red) makes most men think of sex, or not notice her at all. She may have a soft side, but if men can’t see it, they often don’t know it exists. The more feminine (softer) a woman dresses, the more men she will attract.

DANCING IN THE MOONLIGHT WITH U....

2007-11-14T16:08:00.000+05:00

My heart beats for just you, my love.

Hear it calling to you in the night to fill your heart with pure delight,

a sweet song of joy sent from above.
Let me take you in my arms tonight,

hold you close and dance so slow we move together in the candlelight,

I whisper words of love to let you know.
You mean more than the world to me.

This is what we've been waiting for,

a time of healing love and joy so sweet,

a place where we can be as complete.
Let me hold you into my arms tonight,

press you close and dance so slow we move together

in the pale moonlight

I belong with you, my love,

I will never let you go.

THINKING OF YOU....

2007-11-14T13:52:00.000+05:00

Your lips gently press against mine

A silent submission of tongues intertwined

My mouth tenderly presses against yours

My voice trembles as you start to explore...
Electric shocks as your tongue touches mine

An erotic dance of passing time

My heart's racing as fast as yours

My body's craving for something more!
Starving and Craving For an evening Of erotic bliss

Where dreams come true

With the sweetest Kiss.

13 SIGNS OF FALLING IN LOVE....

2007-11-06T16:04:00.000+05:00

13. When your on the phone with them late at night and they hang up...but you miss them already when it was just two minutes ago

12. You read their texts over and over again..

11. You walk really slow when you're with them...

10. You feel shy whenever you're with them...

9. When you think about them, your heart beats faster and faster...

8. You smile when you hear their voice...

7. When you look at them, you can't see the other people around you... all you see is him/her...

6. You start listening to slow songs, while thinking of them...

5. They become ALL you think about...

4. You get high just from their scent...

3. You realize that you're always smiling to yourself when you think about them...

2. You would do anything for them...

1. While reading this, there was one person on your mind the whole time.....

2 Biggest 'LOVE MAKING Mistakes Couples Make

2007-11-01T13:12:00.000+05:00

Mistake 1:

Feeling scared or embarrassed to ask about trying new things
Believe it or not, in 90% of the cases your partner would LOVE to try something new too but they're just as uncomfortable about bringing it up as you are.
Lovemaking, no matter how fantastic the basic act is, does get dull over the years. There is no shame in that. And you don't need to introduce whips, chains or a third person. That's nonsense! There are hundreds of ways to bring variety to your passionate play that aren't crude or dangerous. Which leads me to the next mistake…

Mistake 2:

Thinking that porn or toys will make your lovemaking better.
When sex hits a rough patch many couples (men especially) think that a video, some plastic or vibrating thingy will instantly take things through the roof. Wrong!
While toys can certainly have their place in your lovemaking repertoire, relying on them can be extremely dangerous. These outside sources of pleasure can quickly make lovemaking even less fulfilling.
Why? Because you don't want your partner to end up looking forward to their plastic toy more than you, do you? Couples need to first fully discover how to please all their spouses' body parts before introducing other elements. Think of them as a spice rather than the main course.

10 Love Making Tips to Light Ur Women's Fire

2007-11-01T09:57:00.000+05:00

Use these 10 love making tips on your woman and you'll have her swooning with desire.

1. Touch

Women are very tactile beings. They love to be touched and caressed. Hold her, massage her, tease and tantalize her playfully with your fingers. Don’t go straight to the genitals, pay attention to her whole body.

2. Kisses

Deep passionate kisses are one of the biggest turn ons for a woman. Looking into her eyes or touching her face while kissing her can increase the arousal of the kiss. Kissing other parts of the body such as the neck, belly, inner thighs, buttocks, pelvis area surrounding the vagina, fingers and maybe even the feet for some can heighten her pleasure.

3. Emotional Connection

For women, sex is usually an emotional act as well as a physical act. The deeper the emotional connection, the better the sex will be for her and the deeper her desire for her lover will become. Share your feelings with your woman and express how you feel about her freely. For her, what goes on outside the bedroom is an important factor of what will occur in the bedroom.

4. Foreplay & Aferplay

*Pay extra attention to this very importan love making tip*There is nothing that is a bigger turn off for a woman than a lover who immediately begins penetration without tending to her body and mind. Just as important as foreplay is the period of time immediately following the sex, afterplay. Afterplay reinforces how a woman feels about the sexual experience and will have a great impact on how she responds to her lover in the future.

5. Make Her Feel Important,

Women also need to feel important to their lover. Take an active interest in who she is as a person and what goes on in her life. Ignite your woman’s passion by making her feel special, cherished and adored.

6. Value and Respect

For sex to be at its best, most women need to feel valued and respected by their lover. Her desire and level of satisfaction will grow deeper. She will want her lover more frequently and be more motivated to meet his sexual needs as well.

7. Listen

Women are more attracted to a man who listens to her and actually hears her. Being heard makes her feel important and valued, thereby increasing her feelings of intimacy with her lover and encouraging her to be free and uninhibited in her lovemaking. Her level of satisfaction is enhanced and her desire for her lover increased.

8. Show Her Your Passion & Desire

A woman wants to be wanted passionately. She wants to see your deep desire for her and feel how much you want her. Pursue her passionately and she will be a wild cat full of desire.

9. Take Your Time

*Another very important love making tip*The path to orgasm is just as fulfilling as the orgasm itself and the path is also important for enhancing her orgasmic experience. Take the long meandering road, savoring, pampering and adoring every part of her body along the way.

10. Be a Master of Oral

The majority of women cannot achieve orgasm through intercourse. Taking pleasure in delighting your woman orally is by far one of the most enjoyable ways for her to be satisfied.

I MISS YOU.....

2007-10-31T15:26:00.000+05:00

I miss you terribly this day of love,

Miss you with a wound that stabs and aches.

I see the love around me,

and it takes So much strength simply just to move.

Soon, soon, my love, this waiting will be done.

You and I will have what we desire.

On days like this we'll sit beside the fire,

Undoing all the pain of days long gone.

COME BACK TO ME MY LOVE

2007-10-31T14:47:00.000+05:00

Sharing an afternoon of ecstasy

Closing the door on reality

Not even the thickest iceberg

Could melt the lust I feel inside!
Starving and Craving

For an evening Of erotic bliss

Where dreams come true With a hot sensual kiss....

I Love You!

I MISS YOU HONEY.....

2007-10-31T14:26:00.000+05:00

You are gone and I'm so lonely

You're the only one I want to hold me

Since you left I've just cried in my room

It doesn't even seem like we're under the same moon

I miss you so very much

I miss everything about your touch

I miss how I would kiss your soft cheek

I miss how you were always so very sweet

We would lay as you hold me in your arms

I felt so safe when you were nearby

Every time I saw you I would let out a sigh

I'd see you coming and show a big smile

I haven't smiled for such a long while

I remember how you would come into my room at night and lay by my side

As I wait for you to return I just want to die

I know that I wont see you for a very long time

I miss you so much, now nothing matters to me but you

Now that you are gone theres nothing that I do

I just sit in my room and sing our song

And I pretend that you are singing along

I know you are not here with me

But I pray that you are thinking of me

We are under the same stars, the same sun

But my tears have just begun

I dream about you and hope you are dreaming about me

I just wish I could see Baby I want you here so bad

Without you all I am is sad

My life is over until you are here

So come back HONEY.. I MISS YOU SOOOOOOOO MUCH

WHY MEN WEAR CLOTHS....

2007-10-30T12:49:00.000+05:00

CLICK ON THE PICTURES TO SEE WHY MEN WEAR CLOTHS..... HEHE :)

"NO HONEY, I DONT FEEL LIKE IT TONIGHT...."

2007-10-27T14:50:00.000+05:00

No honey, I don't feel like it tonight...." This was written by a guy...it's pretty damn smart.

Girls -- Have a sense of humor!
I never quite figured out why the sexual urge of men and women differ so much. And I never have figured out the whole Venus and Mars thing.

I have never figured out why men think with their head and women with their heart.

FOR EXAMPLE HERE IS A STORY ABOUT THIS :

One evening last week, my girlfriend and I were getting into bed. Well, the
passion starts to heat up, and she eventually says, "I don't feel like it, I
just want you to hold me." I said, "WHAT??!! What was that?!" So she says
the words that every boyfriend on the planet dreads to hear..."You're just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enough for meto satisfy your physical needs as a man."

She responded to my puzzled look by saying, "Can't you just love me for who I am and not what I do for you in the bedroom?" Realizing that nothing was going to happen that night, I went to sleep.
The very next day I opted to take the day off of work to spend time with her. We went out to a nice lunch and then went shopping at a big, bigunnamed department store. I walked around with her while she tried onseveral different very expensive outfits. She couldn't decide which oneto take, so I told her we'd just buy them all. She wanted new shoes tocompliment her new clothes, so I said, "Lets get a pair for each outfit."

We went on to the jewellery department where she picked out a pair ofdiamond earrings. Let me tell you... she was so excited. She must havethought I was one wave short of a shipwreck. I started to think she wastesting me because she asked for a tennis bracelet when she doesn't evenknow how to play tennis.

I think I threw her for a loop when I said, "That's fine, honey." She was almost nearing sexual satisfaction from all of the excitement. Smiling with excited anticipation, she finally said, "I think this is all dear, let's go to the cashier."

I could hardly contain myself when I blurted out, "No honey, I don't feel like it."Her face just went completely blank as her jaw dropped with a baffled,"WHAT?"I then said, "Honey! I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while.You're just not in touch with my financial needs as a man enough for me to satisfy your shopping needs as a woman." And just when she had this look like she was going to kill me, I added, "Why can't you just love me for who I am and not for the things I buy you?"

Apparently I'm not having sex tonight either....but at least that girl knows
I'm smarter than her.

Soo girls... there are guys very smart.. be carefull... Did you enjoy reading this story?? .. :)

MARRIED LIFE IS FULL OF EXCITEMENT....

2007-10-27T14:29:00.000+05:00

CLICK ON THE PICTURE TO VIEW LARGER....

SPECIAL BIRTHDAY WISH FOR MY LOVE

2007-10-25T12:56:00.000+05:00

Wishing I was with you is just a fantasy,

Hoping it will come true so you can be with me.

Today is a special day for you and for me

I wish I could be there,

I would swim over seas just to show how much I care.

The first time I met you I didn’t think I would love you,

Before I saw you, I’ve dreamt of you and it came true.

I wish I could hold you now

I just need you so much,

I would do anything for you just to feel your touch.

I cant live without you, I really don’t think I can,

I want to kiss you forever because deep inside u r my one & only man!

I know you wish I was with you now right now,

I would be your best present if we were together somehow.

I cried after 12am knowing it was your special day,

Im really sad that i'm not there on your birthday.

I feel I am the one to blame I should be there with you,

I would do anything for you but your so far away,

So the words come out of my mouth… from my heart…

HAPPY BIRTHDAY LOABXXX !!!

DONT MESS WITH GIRLS....

2007-10-23T16:49:00.000+05:00

Typical macho man married typical good-looking lady, and
after the wedding, he laid down the following rules:

'I'll be home when I want, if I want and at what time
I want -- and I don't expect any hassle from you.
I expect a great dinner to be on the table unless
I tell you that I won't be home for dinner.
I'll go hunting, fishing, boozing, and card-playing
when I want with my old buddies, and don't you give me a hard time about it.

Those are my rules. Any comments?'

His new bride said:

'No, that's fine with me. Just understand that there will be sex here at seven o'clock every night...whether you're here or not.'

(DARN SHE'S GOOD! ISNT IT....)

BE CAREFULL HUSBANDS.......

2007-10-23T10:30:00.000+05:00

Husband (a doctor) and his wife are having a fight at the breakfast table.
Husband gets up in a rage and says,

'And you are no good in bed either,' and storms out of the house.

After some time he realizes he was nasty and
decides to make amends and rings her up.
She comes to the phone after many rings, and the irritated husband
says, 'What took you so long to answer to the phone?'

She says, 'I was in bed.'

'In bed this early, doing what?'

'Getting a second opinion!'

LETS READ A TRUE STORY.....

2007-10-21T11:20:00.000+05:00

This is a story of a young school girl who passed away last month in male'.

Her name was Mary. She was hit by a lorry. She is working in a call centre. She has a boy friend named Hassan. Both of them are true lovers.

They always hang on the phone. You can never see her without her hand phone.In fact she also changed her phone from WMobile to Dhimobile, so both of them can be on the same network, and save on the cost. She spends half of the day talking with Hassan. Mary's family knows about their relationship. Hassan was very close with Mary's family. (just imagine their love)

Before she passed away she always told her friends "If I pass away > >please bury me with my hand phone" she also said the same thing to her parents.

After her death, people can't carry her body, I was there. A lot of them tried to do so but still cant, everybody including me, had tried to carry the body, the result is still the same.

Eventually, they called a person who know to one of their neighbors, who can speak with the soul of dead person, who is a friend of her father. He took a stick and started speaking to himself slowly. After a few minutes, he said "this girl misses something here". then her friends told that person about her intentions to bury her with her phone. He then opened the grave box and place her phone and SIM card inside the casket.

after that they tried to carry the body. It could be moved and they carried it into the van easily. All of us were shocked.Mary's parents did not inform Hassan that Mary had passed away.

After 2 Weeks Hassan called Mary's mom. Hassan "Aunt, I'm coming home today. Cook something nice for me. Don't tellMary that I'm coming home today, i want to surprise her." Her mother replied....."You come home first, I want to tell you something very important."after he came, they told him the truth about Mary.

Hassan thought that they were playing a fool. He was laughing and said "Don't try to fool me - tell Mary to come out, i have a gift for her. Please stop this nonsense".then they show him the original death certificate to him. They gave him proof to make him believe.

(Hassan started to sweat) He said... "Its not true. we spoke yesterday. She still calls me. Hassan was shaking. Suddenly, Hassan's phone rang. "see this is from Mary', see this..." he showed the phone to Mary's family. all of them told him to answer. He talked using the loudspeaker mode. all of them heard his conversation. Loud and clear, no cross lines, no humming. It is the actual voice of Mary & there is no way others could use her SIM card since it is nailed inside the grave box they were so shocked and asked for the same person's (who can speak with the soul of deal persons) help again.

He brought his master to solve this matter. He & his master worked for 5 hours. Then they discovered one thing which really shocked them... Diraagu has the best coverage. Where ever you go, Their network follows!!! hehehe...

Never in my life I have read such an story...Wasted ten minutes coz of this...so thought of sharing with you !! kekeke....... :)

For Richer, For Poorer

2007-10-20T12:50:00.000+05:00

Managing Your Finances to Live Happily Ever After

In the words of John Lennon, “money can’t buy me love.” But money may lead to divorce. According to a study by the Creighton University Center for Marriage and Family, money is a leading reason couples fight and one of the main causes of divorce. If you’re planning on tying the knot anytime soon, now is the time to sit down with your groom-to-be and go over your finances.

Here are a few tips to make sure that money doesn’t get in the way of "happily ever after."

Discuss and set long-term goals.

Be open and honest in discussing your finances. Determine what is important to both of you, and agree to work together to accomplish your goals, whether they include paying off your debt, saving for a down payment on a home, or retirement planning. If you’re both on the same page for your long-term goals, you’re less likely to argue about short-term spending.

Determine how you will handle the day-to-day management of your finances. Often one spouse will be more inclined to manage the finances. That’s fine, but make sure that both are aware of what’s going on.

Create a monthly spending plan.

Create a plan outlining what you are going to do with the money you earn. Use a secure online spending management program like Mvelopes Personal (www.mvelopes.com) to automate your plan and make tracking easy. Use online bill pay to set up automatic transfers into a savings account to make saving simple. You can also set up automatic payments on your mortgage, car payment, credit card, or just about any other bill to avoid late payments (and the accompanying arguments). Most banks offer online bill pay and Mvelopes includes a free online bill pay service.

Set aside some “fun money” to cover the occasional impulse buy. Most budgets fail because people feel constrained by them. If you have some wiggle room, you’re much more likely to stick to your plan. Some couples prefer a “his spending” category and a “her spending” category – that way, so long as you have the money in your category, you can get those perfect shoes when you find them, without feeling guilty. And he can get that new golf club.

Start planning for your future…NOW.

This may be the most important thing you can do for yourself. Your wedding should be the start of a wonderful life together, but if you really do want to live happily ever after, you need to start planning for tomorrow today. Set aside some money in your spending plan for a retirement account. Contribute to a 401(k) or set up an automatic transfer to an IRA. Time can be your biggest ally, or your worst enemy. The sooner you start, the easier it will be. Start today. Start now.

Money isn’t everything, and discussing your finances now won’t necessarily ensure that you’ll end up millionaires, but it may help avoid arguments later on. According to a study by economists David Blanchflower and Andrew Oswald, married people are healthier, both physically and psychologically, they live longer, they earn more money and they’re happier. In fact, about $100,000 per year would be needed to compensate for the happiness achieved through a lasting marriage, according to the study. And isn’t that why you’re getting married in the first place…to live happily ever after?

A LESSON TO EVERYONE....

2007-10-20T12:01:00.000+05:00

Johnny wanted to have sex with a girl in his office,but she belonged to someone else... One day, Johnny got so frustrated that he went up to her and said, 'I'll give you a $100 if you let me screw you. But the girl said NO.

Johnny said, 'I'll be fast. I'll throw the money on the floor, you bend down, and I'll be finished by the time you pick it up.

' She thought for a moment and said that she would have to consult her boyfriend... So she called herboyfriend and told him the story.

Her boyfriend says, 'Ask him for $200, pick up the money very fast, he won't even be able to get his pants down.

' So she agrees and accepts the proposal.

Half an hour goes by, and the boyfriend is waiting for his girlfriend to call.

Finally, after 45 minutes, the boyfriend calls and asks what happened.

She responded, 'The bastard used coins!'

Management lesson: Always consider a business proposal in its entirety before agreeing to it and getting screwed!

7 SECRETS TO WINNING THE ONE YOU WANT!

2007-10-18T10:55:00.000+05:00

Have you ever felt frustrated trying to get the one you want to want you back? Have you ever felt like the cause was hopeless and there's just nothing you can do to win their heart?

Such frustrations are common. All human beings are subject to them. While there is no way to completely avoid them, there is a way to overcome them and find success. The way requires a basic understanding of those principles that motivate the human heart, followed by a patient application of those principles.

If you will systematically apply those principles in a well thought out strategy, you will ultimately reap the rewards of your efforts.

Applying the principles is up to you, but today I wanted to share with you a few truths relating to love and romance:

"In Love" is a form of dependency. Therefore, if you want someone to be in love with you, you will have to make up your mind to meet their emotional needs so that they can grow dependent upon you. This includes hundreds of hours of listening to them while they talk while you, for the most part, are just attentively silent.

People are attracted to independence and repulsed by those who seem to cling. Therefore, to avoid scaring off a potential love you must throw in a lot of apparent aloofness while trying to win them. If you think this may confuse the one you want about your real intentions, you're right. Sorry, but that's just the way it needs to be in the early stages of romance.

People want what they can't have. Therefore, you have to hold back form giving yourself completely to the one you want at the first indications they're starting to become attracted to you. Instead of giving the dog the whole steak at once, feed it to him/her one bite at a time, over an extended period of time

I'm speaking here of deeply shared feelings and your valuable time. Be careful with how much time and feeling you give to the one you want. As to sexual involvement, that should be withheld until after the marriage vows, or you'll reduce their incentive to get there. Why buy the cow when the milk is free?

People's conscious decisions are subconsciously motivated. Therefore, don't be too concerned by what the one you want says they think they want, or acts like they think they want. You should act on principle and eventually they'll realize that what they really want is you.

People are most drawn to a person with a positive and confident self-image. Therefore, resist the temptation to spill your feelings of self-doubt. Nothing is a bigger turn-off than somebody who insists on bursting your bubble and destroying the image they want to have of you.

People's attitudes are really a reflection of what you think of them. Therefore, while not wearing your heart on your sleeve, you must still prove though your actions that your friendship to them is a committed one. This takes time.

The longer a relationship grows, the stronger it becomes. Therefore, if you mess up along the way, take comfort in the fact that tomorrow is another day, and the fact that you prove you have lasted and learned from yesterday's hardships, will in itself increase their feelings of commitment to you in the long run.

MARRIAGE MYTHS AND REALITIES

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MYTH: Loneliness Myth that marriage will end your loneliness.
REALITY: Many married people are still very lonely.

MYTH: Fulfillment Fallacy which makes you believe that being married makes you complete human beings.

REALITY: A couple complements one another, not completes one another.

MYTH: Marriage Is for Everyone.

REALITY: There are a lot of unmarried people who are extremely happy.

MYTH: Monogamy Myth makes you believe that you are the only couple who is dealing with infidelity or that it only happens to bad or weak people.

REALITY: Infidelity happens to many couples.

MYTH: Romance will always be alive in a good marriage.

REALITY: Nearly all relationships experience peaks and valleys. The everyday problems and challenges of married life can often cloud over romantic feelings. This is when making the decision to love is important.

MYTH: Marriage makes people happy.

REALITY: You can't expect your spouse to be your one source of happiness. Your personal happiness must come from within yourself. Marriage can complement your own individual happiness but it can't be the primary source.

MYTH: You won't have major problems if you truly love one another.

REALITY: A good marriage doesn't just happen. It takes nurturing, commitment, and work.

MYTH: My spouse should know my needs without my saying anything.

REALITY: Just because you're married doesn't mean you can read minds. You have to tell your spouses what your needs are.

MYTH: Conflict means a lack of love.

REALITY: Conflict happens in every marriage. Fighting fair and for the relationship, and not just to "win" is healthy in a marriage.

Tools for a Successful Marriage

Your marriage needs love, support, tolerance, communication, realistic expectations, caring, nurturing, and a sense of humor to be successful.
Some television shows like Mad About You, Home Improvement, To Have and To Hold, The Cosby Show, Dharma & Greg, and Everybody Loves Raymond reflect these values and show that marriages can survive conflict, disappointment, and problems.

WHY DO WE HAVE SEX ??

2007-09-20T14:21:00.000+05:00

Why do people have sex? Seems about as obvious as Ms. Star Jones having weight loss surgery, but apparently it is not.
In a recent study published in Archives of Sexual Behavior (I don’t read it; I swear. I actually saw this study on the Today Show), 2,000 people were asked why they had sex.

The answer? Well, surprisingly, there were more than one. 237 reasons, to be exact.

The top three most popular responses for both men and women seemed the most obvious:

1. They were attracted to the person

2. They wanted to experience physical pleasure

3. “It feels good”

The other 234 reasons were random, interesting and – sometimes – scary.

Some included: to burn calories, for revenge, to make babies, to get closer to the person, to get closer to God and to pass STDs onto someone else (yikes!).

My personal reasons for having sex:

1. I like it

2. My man wants it

3. I’m H-O-R-N-Y

4. It feels GREAT .. and therefore i like to do it

Then again, that’s just me. I can’t judge others for wanting to have sex to fit in with their friends or to get ahead in the work place.

The most interesting thing to come from this study, however, is the fact that both men and women wanted to have sex for physical more than emotional reasons.

Which finally puts an end to the “sex changes everything” argument.

Women can no longer be viewed as emotional/love seeking/weepy in the bedroom anymore.

We – being the women of the 21st centry– want sex for the same top three reasons men do. Mostly because we need some good old fashion passion. Not because we want to form a connection or to make our lives more like a romantic comedy.

Nope. We just want to get some.

And is there any reason better than that?

I WANT TO BE WITH YOU....

2007-09-12T16:36:00.000+05:00

I want to be with you,but your millions of miles away.

i wish you would call just to ask about my day.

it would make things so much better if i could hear you voice,

I guess i can't complain too much, after all this was my choice.

i wish i could hold you in my arms and look in to your eyes.

i promise i will always be true to you and never tell you lies.

its so hard to go to sleep without you by my side.

my tears are the only thing ill ever try to hide.

i lie awake in bed as the tears stream down my face,

they keep going until the hit my pillow case.

I Miss You loabivaa......... I just cant be like this without you

HERE IS A BEAUTIFUL STORY ABOUT LOVE

2007-09-09T16:32:00.000+05:00

Once upon a time there was an island where all feelings lived;Hapiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all others including Love.One Day it was announced to all the feelings. That the Island wasgoing to sink to the bottom of the ocean. So all the feelings preparetheir boats to leave. Love was the only one that stayed.

She wanted to preserve the island paradise until the last possiblemoment.When the island was almost totally under,Love decided toleave. She begun looking for someone to ask for help. Just then,Richness was passing by in a grand boat.

Love asked, "Richness, can I come with you in your boat".Richness answered "I am sorry, but theres a lot of silver and gold.On my boat and there would be no room for you anywhere".

The Love decided to ask Vanity, Who was passing by in a beautifulvessel, for help. Love cried out, "Vanity, help me please!" "I canthelp you", Vanity said."You are all wet and will damage my beautifulboat!" Next Love saw sadness passing by.

Love said, "Sadness please let me go with you". Sadnessanswered, "Love im sorry, but i just need to be alone now". ThenLove saw Happiness.

Love cried out,"Happiness, please take me with you!" but, Happinesswas so enjoyed that he didn't hear love calling to him. Love beganto cry. Then she heard a voice say,"Come Love, I will take you withme!" It was an elder.

Love felt so blessed and enjoyed that she forgot to ask the eldersname. When they arrived on land the elder went his way.Love realized how much she owed the elder. Love then found Knowledgeand asked, "Who was it that help me?

""It was Time" knowledge answered. "But why did Time help me when noone else would?" Love asked. Knowledge smiled and with deep wisdomand sincerity answered,"Because only Time is capable of understandinghow GREAT LOVE is".

WHY DO PEOPLE SAY LOVE IS BLIND .??

2007-09-09T13:32:00.000+05:00

The women who is beaten on a regular basis by her husband but stays with him is blinded by love.

The man who is cheated on on a regular basis by his girlfriend but always forgive her and believes she will not do it again is blinded by love.

Love does not see what a person is really like.

Have you ever been so in love with someone that you thought they were perfect only to find out that they are just a normal human being with selfish tendencies? Then you were blinded by love.

Love will make a person seem and appear how you want them to be. You will mould their image in your mind and will deny anything that they do or say which contradicts this image.Love will make you filter out the bad stuff and only see the good stuff in them.

Eventually the light of this all consuming love will die down and you will start to wake up and some people even wonder why the heck they are with that person.

Have you ever looked at your partner and thought who are you? Who is this person I am living with? Then you were blinded by love.

Love is like being a horse with blinkers galloping down a road of gold, and on the side of the road a great battle is going on, a war of many different conflicting forces but you can only see the golden road. You have your blinkers on and at the end of the road is a waterfall which will take you down to the very depths of Hades itself.

Have you ever looked at someone you were with when you were younger and been almost in shock that you were with such a person? Then you were blinded by love.

Love will only see the pleasure and the attention that they are receiving from the object of their desire, it will not at first see the actual person..........therefore it is blind

WHY AN ADDICTION TO PORN ?

2007-09-09T13:10:00.000+05:00

Why do people develop an addiction to porn? For some, it’s by accident, especially young boys who stumble upon their dad’s pornography magazine stash. Some experiment never thinking they’ll develop an addiction to porn. And for others, it is a deliberate choice.

An addiction to porn substitutes as reality as some boys/men escape to their fantasies where every woman’s desire is to please them. Escaping into a fantasy becomes an oasis for boys/men who don’t relate to women due to fear of rejection, never expressing their interest in the opposite gender. So, they actually reject themselves not giving girls/women a chance to reject them. Then there are others who got up the nerve to approach the opposite sex only to be rejected in middle or high school or college. For them, an addiction to porn is an oasis from pain, depression, and rejection.

Remember, fantasies never fail and never reject their creator. By feeding the male ego, porn puts you in charge with women at your disposal. Porn’s deception for some is that the girl of your dreams is yours and all she wants to do is have sex with you whenever you want it. Being in charge somehow makes you feel like the man you always wanted to be or thought you should be -- possibly making you feel better about yourself for the wrong reasons. When you are not having your pornography fix, maybe you feel less self-confident and less of a man. This is wrong and it is Satan’s lie.

Masturbating does bring momentary pleasure, but most guys wish they were having sex with a real woman instead of their imagination and their hand. Some people develop an addiction to porn due to childhood sexual abuse. Their shame is often accompanied by feelings of guilt that the abuse was their fault. They feel that they are unworthy of a healthy relationship and this can drive them to porn. Living in a fantasy is even more depressing when you are to required resurface in the real world. Feeling inferior or that you will never meet Miss or Mrs. Right is a deception of Satan. Don’t fall for it. We can’t help being tricked some times, but we don’t have to stay there.

Why Do Most Marriages Fail?

2007-08-15T11:42:00.000+05:00

Roughly 50% of all marriages fail and many of those dont even make it past the first year. Understanding why these marriages fail can be key to ensuring that your own marriage does not fail. Some factors that contribute to the failure of a marriage include a lack of communication or poor communication, financial issues and even the circumstances of the marriage. All of these issues can exist in a healthy and enduring marriage but if they are not dealt with properly they can lead to the failure of the marriage. Communication is critical to the success of a marriage. Without proper communication, conflict resolution becomes a difficult issue. If the couple lacks the communication skills necessary to resolve their problems, then even the smallest problems will become insurmountable. Communication allows a relationship to grow and thrive by giving the partners an opportunity to share their dreams, concerns, hopes and desires with each other. Without sharing in this way a couple will not grow as close together as possible. Communication also gives the couple a healthy way to resolve their arguments. If one or both partners lack effective communications skills it becomes difficult to resolve arguments because the couple is not able to understand each others points of view. If the marriage is already in trouble, both partners in the marriage must be dedicated to working on their communication skills in order to improve or salvage their marriage. The absence of effective communication techniques can lead to the failure of a marriage. Love may conquer all but sometimes even love isnt enough to save a marriage when there are significant financial concerns. While financial concerns in and of themselves may not be the cause of a failed marriage the tension that financial concerns create is often the culprit in a failed marriage. Financial concerns can be a heavy burden to bear and when a couple is struggling to meet their financial obligations, there can be a tremendous amount of pressure in the relationship. This pressure may be enough to destroy an otherwise healthy marriage. If one of the partners in the marriage becomes obsessed with the marital finances they can begin to neglect other aspects of the marriage. This neglectful behavior has the affect of making the spouse feel ignored and lonely which can be damaging to a marriage. Often one of the partners will become consumed with the financial affairs and this can be very damaging to a marriage. Even the circumstances surrounding the marriage can lead to its failure. A marriage of convenience is often not a healthy marriage. When the decision to marry is based on something other than true love, it is likely that the marriage will fair. Some examples of marriage circumstances that often lead to failure are getting married because there is a baby on the way or because the couple is feeling pressure to get married by friends and family members. Neither of these reasons are truly valid reasons for marriage and often leads to divorce. When a couple marries for reasons other than true love the marriage is often doomed before it starts. Marrying too young is another reason why many marriages fail. While the right age to marry varies greatly depending on the person, many people argue that the teens and early twenties are too early to get married. Getting married before you have had a chance to enjoy many of lifes experiences can result in resentfulness in the marriage and can be the cause of failure of the marriage. Another reason why many marriages fail is that society no longer places importance on the institution of marriage. Today it is common for couples to live together and have children without being married. This degeneration of society devalues marriage and results in a higher percentage of failed marriages. With so little value placed on marriage in todays society, couples are not committed to making their marriage work and are often quick to give up on the marriage and each other. Many marriages today are doomed before they even start. Marriage is no longer seen as a necessary step in a relationship so many couples are quick to divorce without making an honest effort to resolve their problems. Communication breakdown, financial difficulties as well as circumstances of the marriage are all problems that can cause many marriages to fail.

LETS HAVE A LAUGH...

2007-08-08T18:04:00.000+05:00

Chinese Name confusion!!

Caller: Hello, can I speak to Annie Wan?
Operator: Yes, you can speak to me.
Caller: No, I want to speak to Annie Wan!
Operator: Yes I understand you want to speak to anyone. You can speak to me. Who is this? Caller: I'm Sam Wan . And I need to talk to Annie Wan! It's urgent.
Operator: I know you are someone and you want to talk to anyone ! But what's this urgent matter about?
Caller: Well... just tell my sister Annie Wan that our brother Noe Wan was involved in an accident. Noe Wan got injured and now Noe Wan is being sent to the hospital..
Operator : Look, if no one was injured and no one was sent to the hospital, then the accident isn't an urgent matter! You may find this hilarious but I don't have time for this!
Caller: You are so rude! Who are you?
Operator: I'm Saw Ree .
Caller: Yes! You should be sorry .. Now give me your name!!
Operator: That's what I said. I'm Saw Ree .
Caller: Oh.....God

KISS MEANINGS....

2007-07-25T11:32:00.000+05:00

Kiss on the hand - I adore you.

Kiss on the cheek - I just want to be friends.

Kiss on the chin - You are cute!

Kiss on the neck - I want you.

Kiss on the lips - I love you.

Kiss on the ears - Let's have some fun.

Kiss anywhere else - You're the best.

WHERE AND HOW TO KISS UR LOVE....

2007-07-25T11:21:00.000+05:00

· Behind their ear.
· Tip of their nose.
· Back of their neck.
· Underside of their forearm.
· Curve of their waist.
· Palm of their hand.
· Inside their wrist.
· Under their chin.
· Their eyelids.
· Inside of their ankle.
· Their collar bone.
· Tips of their fingers.
· Their spine.
· Small of their back.
· Their tummy.
· Behind their knees.
Of course, this is just to give you an idea. Aim to shower your love with kisses ALL OVER!

HOW TO FIND OUT IF UR BOYFRIEND IS CHEATING ON YOU...

2007-07-22T12:36:00.000+05:00

Steps
1- Write down how often he texts you per day. You may discover a pattern. If he suddenly starts sending you many fewer texts per day, you should be concerned. He may be conserving his credit for another girl so you may want to check his messages. If you discover texts from more than one girl (not including his mother or sister) he is almost definitely cheating on you and most probably with multiple others.

2-If he buys you an overwhelming amount of flowers or chocolates, this is cause for serious concern.

3-As a last resort, you may want to hire a private detective. It is expensive but more often than not it is extremely necessary.

Tips
Checking his receipts may give you clues as to the gifts he is buying for others.
If he has a diary, find a quiet moment when he is not around and photocopy it. You may want to use this material when confronting him later.

Warnings
Do not use weaponry or violence when confronting your boyfriend. This will lead to someone getting hurt.

HOW TO HANDLE A CHEATING BOYFRIEND...

2007-07-22T12:27:00.000+05:00

Has your boyfriend been unfaithful to you? Handle a cheating boyfriend by following these Steps

Step One
Acknowledge and accept your feelings of anger, sadness and disappointment over the betrayal.

Step Two
Don't blame yourself for his actions. Remember that you can't be responsible for anyone's behavior other than your own.

Step Three
Try to set aside your emotions and look at the situation from an outsider's point of view. What advice would you give to your friend?

Step Four
Evaluate whether his behavior has permanently destroyed your trust in him and in your relationship. Do you believe he won't repeat his actions in the future?

Step Five
Confront your boyfriend and tell him exactly how you feel about his actions. Let him know that cheating is not acceptable behavior in your relationship.

Step Six
If you feel you need to know why he cheated on you to obtain closure for yourself, listen to his explanations about his behavior. Remember that listening does not mean you condone, agree with or accept his behavior.

Step Seven
Don't allow him to manipulate your feelings with sweet words of apology or promises never to cheat on you again. Be realistic. Do you honestly believe this was a one-time event, or do your instincts tell you that he'll probably cheat on you again in the future?

Step Eight
Ask yourself if you would be better off with him or without him. Can you continue to enjoy the relationship, knowing about the betrayal?

Step Nine
Find a constructive outlet for your emotions of disappointment and anger.

Step Ten
Give yourself time to grieve over the betrayal. Whether you stay with him or not, forgive him for his actions so you can heal and move on with your life.

HOW TO BREAK UP PEACEFULLY...

2007-07-22T12:16:00.000+05:00

If you're ready to end a relationship, consider how you can break up without conflict.

Steps One

Acknowledge that the relationship is really over. Come to terms with your own feelings and make a firm decision to end the relationship.

Step Two
Don't delay the inevitable. Once you decide to break up with your partner, immediately think about how, when and where you will take action.

Step Three
Make sure you're the one who personally delivers the news. Don't give a third party the opportunity to tell your partner that you want to break up before you have the chance to discuss the matter alone.

Step Four
Select a private place to meet with your partner to end the relationship.

Step Five
Find or schedule an appropriate time. Approach the topic when both of you are calm and rational. Don't announce your intention to break up during a heated argument or a moment of anger.

Step Six
Show your resolve by being firm, decisive and honest. Help your partner understand why you want to end the relationship. Be tactful, not brutal.

Step Seven
Remind your partner that you'll never forget the positive qualities in your relationship, but emphasize that you're ready to move on with your life.

Step Eight
Give your partner the closure that he or she needs to accept the breakup; answer questions and talk it over instead of leaving loose ends.

Step Nine
Stay positive as you both make plans to go your separate ways

10 THINGS GUYS WISH WOMEN KNEW ABT MEN...

2007-07-21T12:00:00.000+05:00

Men would rather feel unloved than inadequate and disrespected:

Husbands need to know that their wives respect them both privately and publicly.

A man’s anger is often a response to feeling disrespected by his wife:

When a husband becomes angry with his wife, he may not come out and say, “You’re disrespecting me!” But, there is a good likelihood that he is feeling stung by something his wife has done which he considers disrespectful and humiliating

Men are insecure:

To men, affirmation from their wives is everything! If they don’t receive this affirmation from their wives, they’ll seek it elsewhere. When they receive regular and genuine affirmation from their wives (not flattery, by the way), they become much more secure and confident in all areas of their lives

Men feel the burden of being the provider for their family:

Men are simply wired with this burden. It’s not a burden they’ve chosen to bearAs such, it is never far from their minds and can result in the feeling of being trapped. While wives cannot release their husbands from this burden, they can relieve it through a healthy dose of appreciation, encouragement, and support.

Men want more sex:

men want more sex is because of their strong need to be desired by their wives. Men simply need to be wanted. Regular, fulfilling sex is critical to a man’s sense of feeling loved and desired.

Sex means more than sex:

When men feel their wives desire them sexually, it has a profound effect on the rest of their lives. It gives them an increasing sense of confidence and well-being that carries over into every other area of his life. The flipside of this coin also carries a profoundly negative affect. When a husband feels rejected sexually, he not only feels his wife is rejecting him physically, but that she is somehow rejecting his life as a husband, provider, and man. This is why making sex a priority in marriage is so incredibly important!

Men struggle with visual temptation:

This means the vast majority of men respond to visual images when it comes to women. And, this doesn’t just mean the guys with wandering eyes. Even the most godly husband cannot avoid noticing a woman who dresses in a way that draws attention to her body. Even if it is just a glance, these visual images are stored away in the male brain as a sort of “visual rolodex” that will reappear without any warning. Men can choose whether to dwell on these images and memories or dismiss them, but they can’t control when these images appear.

Men enjoy romance, but doubt their skills to be romantic:

True, many men appear to be unromantic clods, but it doesn’t mean that they want to be that way! Men want to be romantic, but they just doubt their ability to pull it off

Men care about their wife’s appearance:

This isn’t saying that all men want their wives to look like the latest supermodel. What men really want is to know that their wives are making an effort to take care of themselves (and not letting themselves go) because it matters to them (the husbands!). Husbands appreciate the efforts their wives make to maintain their attractiveness

Men want their wives to know how much they love them:

This was the number one response of men. Men aren’t confident in their ability to express this, but they love their wives dearly. Men want to show how much they love their wives and long for them to understand this fact.

TIPS FOR MAKING UR MARRIAGE WORK...

2007-07-21T10:49:00.000+05:00

1- Attending to one another

As married people, we need to recognize how valuable each of us is to the other.If she's had a stressful day at work, with the kids or in paying the bills we don't have enough money to cover, the worst thing u can do upon coming home is to minimize her stress by comparing it to you. "Well, if you think you've had a bad day, listen to this."
Some better responses might include: "What can I do to help? May I assist with dinner? Do you want to go out later for coffee with a friend? I'll get the kids off to bed."
In general, if you place your spouse's needs before your own, you will be the beneficiary. Selfishness promotes resentment, and resentment engenders conflict. Selflessness, on the other hand, creates understanding, and understanding produces harmony.

2- Getting beyond the attacks

It's so easy to attack. I know many spouses who cannot get beyond criticizing their mates. "Harry, you're never home. You never spend any time with the children. You don't spend enough time with me. You're always with your friends. Why don't we talk anymore?"

"Mary, you don't like my friends. You haven't been watching your diet. The kids are driving me nuts. You could keep the house a little better. The PTA bores me. We don't have sex enough."
You can spend a lifetime finding fault with your spouse. But I'm telling you, it's a lot more rewarding and productive to change the tone of your responses in order to achieve the desired result.

Try this:

"Harry, I like it when we're together. After the kids are asleep, let's get comfy, watch a movie and go to bed early."
"Mary, you look great. Let's go for a walk after dinner. I'll help you clean up the house. When is the next PTA meeting? I'd like to attend."

3-Change yourself first

You can't change the behavior of your spouse by telling him or her to change. Change begins with you. If there is too much tension and resentment in your relationship, it's up to you to moderate the behavior, change the tone, get out of the attack mode. In most cases, your mate will follow your example, not your commands. If there is too much hostility, then it's up to you to stop being hostile. When you want to strike back with a verbal barrage of criticism, try pausing for a second in order to reflect and redirect. Tone and restraint are everything in relationships. Program yourself to walk away from a possible fight. Say a prayer to release the anger. Choose your words carefully. Don't provoke. Moderate. Reach out. Be caring. Try to understand the source of the hostility in your spouse before you respond.

4-Create a partnership

It's cheaper and far less complicated to stay married than it is to get a divorce. Play to one another's God-given talents. Work as a team in raising children, doing household budgets, identifying investment opportunities and planning for the future.

for eg:

If she is great with numbers. She handles ur taxes and finances but if she wants to purchase large items she can talk to you. You can handle calls to plumbers, get the car serviced, handle problems with neighbors and talk with teachers if there are problems.
She can go shopping and ferries the kids to after-school activities. You can deal with spiritual matters and arrange entertainment and vacations. You can share getting the kids ready for bed.

Remember these:

Relationships are dynamic, not static. To develop healthy relationships over the long term, we must be attentive to our spouse's changing needs, moderate the tone of the dialogue, avoid hurtful criticisms, focus on the attributes, work on true intimacy, and build economically viable partnerships.
Remember, marriage must be forever, and your spouse won't change unless you change first.

GOOD RELATIONSHIPS ARE GOOD FOR YOU

2007-07-21T10:35:00.000+05:00

*People in supportive, loving relationships:

*Help each other practically as well as emotionally.

*Are less likely to do things that are bad for their health.

*Tend to be happier and healthier, satisfied with their lives.

*Enjoy the good times and help each other through the tough ones

LOVE POINTERS

2007-07-21T10:16:00.001+05:00

1-When you say, "I love you," mean it!

2-Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

3-Love deeply and passionately.

4-You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.

5-Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; Responsibility for all your actions.

6-When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

Remember that the best relationship is one where your love for each other is greater than your need for each other.

THE CORNERSTONES OF A RELATIONSHIP

2007-07-21T10:04:00.000+05:00

CARING, RESPECT , COMMUNICATION, TRUTH , & COMMITMENT

For a relationship to have a solid foundation to build on you need:
Caring about each other
Respect for each others needs
Communication between each other
Truth with each other on all things big and small
Commitment to each other and the relationship you have!

Simple, but truly needed in a sound relationship

OVER COMING A BROKEN HEART

2007-07-21T09:39:00.000+05:00

Step One:

Allow yourself time to heal, and know that you can heal. Whether the loss is due to death, rejection, or other reason.
It is normal to grieve over a loss of a love for any reason.

It usually takes two to three years for a couple whose relationship has broken up to begin to put their lives back together again. It sometimes takes five years for individuals and families to get over the emotional pain and trauma. Many people can have serious health and emotional problems during this time.

Step Two:

Realize that you still can find happiness.

Realize that you can control how you think, what you think about, and how much.
A key is to concentrate on the positives you have in the present. Not thinking about the future or past.

Step Three:

Activily work to feel better.
Act happy and smile.
Even if you don't feel that way, it should start to make you feel that way. Life will be better.

Healing Helpers

Being around people and getting involved in helping others is a good way to accelerate the proces of healing.
Laughing helps too, so see a comedy, watch funny things. That is part of the reason the Irish have a party when someone passes away.
Helping others helps you loose sight of your own losses.
It is strongly suggested that you take the intensity of your feelings and re-direct them into doing something constructive that helps others.

SMART WIFE....

2007-07-20T13:36:00.000+05:00

Letter from husband ( who is abroad) to wife

Dear Sweetheart:
I can't send my salary this month, so I am sending 100kisses.

You are my sweetheart

=Your husbandAllen=
***************************

His wife replied back after some days to her husband:

Dearest sweetheart,

Thanks for your 100 kisses, I am sending the expenses details.
1. The Milk man agreed on 2 kisses for one month's milk.
2. The electricity man only agreed after 7 kisses.
3. Your house owner is coming every day and taking two or three kissesInstead of the rent.
4. Supermarket owner did not accept kisses only, so I have given him Some otheritems.......
5. Other expenses 40 kisses Please don't worry for me, I have a remaining balance of 35 kisses and I hope I can complete the month using this balance.Shall I plan same way for next months,

Please Advise!!!
Your Sweet Heart

BEFORE AND AFTER MARRIAGE...

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Before the marriage:
He: Yes. At last. It was so hard to wait.
She: Do you want me to leave?
He: NO! Don't even think about it.
She: Do you love me?
He: Of course!
She: Have you ever cheated on me?
He: NO! Why you even asking?
She: Will you kiss me?
He: Yes!
She: Will you hit me?
He: No way! I'm not such kind of person!
She: Can I trust you?
He: Yes.

>>>Now after the marriage you can read it from below to up !!!!

WHAT DOES MARRIAGE MEAN.....??

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WHY DO WE LOVE OUR MOM....

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I WISH YOU WERE HERE MY LOVE.....

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I wish that you could feel..My arms around you tight,

Holding you up close..All thru out the night.
To let u know that I am there

And never away far,That I will remain

Where ever that you are.

I wish that you could hearMy softly whispered song,

To pull you into sleep..For it's here that we belong.
That you could hear me say

All you need to hear,As I tell you of my love

Whispered soft against your ear.

And you could feel my breath

Warm against your skin,As I let my presence beg you

To let this true love in.
I wish that I could hold you

And whisper long into your night,

Never would you wonder then

As I held you to me tight...

THINKING OF YOU LOABS......

2007-07-13T09:14:00.000+05:00

I cant go to sleep I’m just thinking of you
Thinking of tonight
And all of the feelings coming through

When I’m with you,There’s nowhere else I want to be

It’s just right

You with me

You make me melt when you kiss me

You make me faint when you touch me

I have all these emotions just for you

I’ve never felt this way about anyone in my life

Its 2 a.m. and I’m thinking of you

And all the crazy things you do

I’m so happy I want to cry

Just the fact that I’m with my dream guy

Your perfect in everyway

I prayed for someone like you

And God sent you my way

I’m wide-awake thinking of you

You must be an angel

There’s no other explanation

These feelings are real

Not just flirtation

I love being with you

Just watching the stars Is so romantic with you

I don’t care what anyone else has to say

It’s just you and meForever

I pray..I’m crying myself to sleep thinking of you

These are tears of happiness

Its amazing how one person can transform your life

You’re all I want..Everything else is pointless

I don’t know how I feel

But I know that its for real

I can honestly say I love you

IT ISN'T LOVE WHEN.......

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Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing, And your voice caught within your chest?
It isn't Love, it's Like.
You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them, am I right?
It isn't Love, it's Lust.
Are you proud, and eager to show them off?
It isn't Love, it's Luck.
Do you want them because you know they're there?
It isn't Love, it's Loneliness.
Are you there because it's what everyone wants?
It isn't Love, it's Loyalty.
Do you stay for their confessions of Love, because you don't want to hurt them?
It isn't Love, it's Pity.
Are you there because they kissed you, or held your hand?
It isn't Love, it's being Unconfident.
Do you belong to them because their sight makes your heart skip a beat?
It isn't Love, it's Infatuation.
Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?
It isn't Love, it's Friendship.
Do you tell them every day they are the only one you think of?
It isn't Love, it's a Lie.
Are you willing to give all of your favorite things for their sake?
It isn't Love, it's Charity.

IT IS LOVE WHEN......

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Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?
Then it's Love.
Are you attracted to others, but stay with them faithfully without regret?
Then it's Love.
Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are?
Then it's Love.
Do you cry for their pain, even when they're strong?
Then it's Love.
Do their eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
Then it's Love.
But do you stay because a blinding, incomprehensible mix of pain and elation pulls you close and holds you?
Then it's Love.
Would you give them your heart, your life, your death?
Then it's Love.
Now, if Love is painful, and tortures us so,why do we Love?Why is it all we search for in life?This pain, this agony?Why is it all we long for?This torture, this powerful death of self?Why?Because it's...Love

REMEMBER......

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A POEM TO MY LOVE

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Missing You Already

Here I am missing you,

and it hasn't been that long,

What am i to do?

My hero, my love, my soul mate,

That's what you are to me,

So, I can do nothing but wait.

If only i had the power

To bring you to me,

Even if only for an hour...

I long to feel your touch,

My love, my darling,

I miss you so much.

To feel the kiss of your lips,

The burning desire
of the caress of your finger tips.

I know that even though we are apart,

I can have you beside me,

just by looking into my heart.

Is it enough to see me through?

It has to be, my love,

because I am so in LOVE WITH YOU.

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YOU ARE WORTH THE WAIT AT THE DISTANCE, BUT I WISH YOU WERE HERE, NOW!!!HONEY I WANT TO WAKE UP BESIDE YOU...I MISS YOU SOOO MUCH LOABS...

A Way To Get A Man's Attention FAST

2007-07-08T11:46:00.000+05:00

If you REALLY want to impress a man who is flirting with you... instead of basking in his flirtatious attention, ask him - in an equally flirtatious way - this simple question:
"So tell me... what kind of woman do you respect?"
Adding a flirtatious element to a serious question is fun and inviting way of building SEXUAL TENSION that will instantly separate you from every other woman he's ever met. It lets him know that you're sassy, smart, and selective - an IRRESISTABLE combination.

The 3 Deadly Mistakes Women Make With Men Without EVER Realizing It...

2007-07-08T11:26:00.000+05:00

Through my research and personal experience, I've found that these 3 mistakes are responsible for more failed dates and relationships with men than any other factors. Here they are:

» Mistake #1:

Leading A Man To Think You Are "Needy" And "Insecure"Did you know that there are 6 ways you can set off a man's "Insecurity Alert" and make him think twice about pursuing a relationship with you?Sadly, even confident women often "accidentally" give off one of these signs... and just one can kill the chance of a man asking you on a second date.
As you read through these signals men pick up on as "needy" and unattractive, ask yourself if YOU have ever been guilty of committing one of these deadly mistakes:

Talking or saying nasty things about your past boyfriends.

Saying bad things about men you have been involved with actually reflects the negatively back on YOU. It makes a man worry you are carrying around "baggage" that HE will have to deal with should he become involved with you.

Speaking negatively about other women.

When women call other women names like "slut", "bitch", and "crazy", it is anything but impressive to a man you are attracted you. Women will often do this when they see a good looking, desirable woman, especially if they feel their man might be attracted to her. This just makes a man think you are trying to cover up your own insecurities, and looking for validation and attention. Not good.

Too much physical contact, especially in public.

If you are constantly hanging on a man or touching him too much he'll start to see it as clingy behavior... but you'll never hear about this from him. It's far better to save your touches for short and infrequent moments that will surprise and enchant him.

» Mistake #2:

Appealing To His "Sexual" Side Instead Of His Emotional Side .Many women make the mistake of thinking that men are primarily driven by sex alone... and think if they can attract a man SEXUALLY they will be able to attract him EMOTIONALLY as well. Women too often give up sex to a man in the hopes that it will translate into a relationship and get them what they want. In reality, a man has the capacity to view a sexual connection and an emotional connection as two entirely different things, and it requires a special set of skills to mold these two things together in a man's mind... and keep them connected. Men are out for far more than just sex... and a woman who knows how to fulfill a man EMOTIONALLY and SEXUALLY will be the woman who captures a man's heart... and gets that same fulfillment for HERSELF.

» Mistake #3:

Not Knowing How To Size Up A Man's "Relationship Potential"A lot of women will decide whether or not they should put energy into building a relationship with a man based on ATTRACTION.
Yes, attraction is important. But it can also be DANGEROUS.
When we feel a strong sense of attraction for someone, it can cause us to override our logic and ignore our instincts... leading us to overlook potential partner's deadly faults that could spell trouble down the road.
If you've ever found yourself stuck in a relationship that is dragging you down, this is probably why.
It's important to be able to size a guy up and spot any "warning signs" of a future bad relationship FAST... so you don't waste any of your time or emotional energy on someone who isn't right for you... or who will leave you heartbroken.

TOUCHING AND HOLDING

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Back Rub Skills
If there's a single skill that can be incredibly powerful in any relationship, it is the ability to give back, neck and foot massages. These moments not only build up your connection with each other but also help reduce stress and make you both happy

Guide Her While you Walk
When you walk together, put your hand on the small of her back, guiding her and letting her know you´re there. If you're the girl, put your hand on his arm, walking beside him. It feels very romantic!

Hairing
Run your fingers through your partner's hair and speak softly to them while they fall asleep.

Hold Hands
Holding hands is something that 4 year olds do - and that 94 year olds do. It's the most basic form of affection there is. Hold hands with your darling, whether it's while you drive down the road in your car or walk in the mall. Give your love a squeeze to say "I'm here, and I love you."

Hold the waist
when you are walking with your girlfriend put your arm around her waist
Holding
Boys, if you've just kissed a girl and you are walking with her, and you had your arms round her when you kissed, as you start walking, keep one arm around her and put one hand either at the bottom of her back, just above her butt, or if you're more comfortable then put it on her butt!!

FLIRTING TIPS

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1. always complement a lady:Give her a good compliment like you look beautiful..etc

2.always listen to your gurl:If your girl says something and you know its a lie just tell her you believe her because if you say no she will think you dont trust her and if you say yes she will think that you dont want to lose her and she will like you more. Hope this works for you

3.Ask...Ask them something that they would maybe enjoy doing (i.e. playing guitar or something) and just keep doing stuff like that

4.B4 u talk to her:make a list of what to talk about

5.BE HONEST…Never try to lie to make yourself look better, or to keep yourself out of trouble with her. The thing that girls looks for in a guy the most is honesty. Remember...if she don't like you for who you are. Then the hell with her. But remember the most important thing... BE HONEST

6.BE YOURSELF!

7.Clothing: you have chosen the clothes you wear because they are clothes you enjoy. So talk to your mate about the clothes they choose! Say how much you like them, ask why they chose that color, enjoy the texture of the shirt. Comment on the cool design or embroidery

8.Come on guys... Its not that hard: Guys... come on! If you like a girl dont wait for her to give you a "sign"... most girls are waiting for you to go and talk to her. Go up to her and break the ice, ask a stupid question or just ask her for her name.

9. Conversation:If you wanna make a great convo wif your bf/gf find out what they r interested in. Then just bring it up casually with him/her and then BOOM - theres a convo - because your bf/gf will be suprised you know so much about it and they will share their thoughts too

10.How to get a girl’s name:Go up to a girl and ask, Do i know you and if they say no, then interduce yourself. Then ask them thier name. Trust me, you get to know a girl that way.

11.Eye contact and smile:Really, this one can go for men or women - simply, smile at that person when you see them, and when they're talking keep eye contact with them (or at least on their face). Smile when greeting them, smile when saying good-bye; keep eye contact and make it seem like whatever they're saying to you is of the utmost importance - which it should be if you're trying to woo him/her!This really does work, just let it come naturally.

12.Get him to talk to you:Look at him and when he notices that you've been looking at him ask him for help. Then when he is helping you complment him on how cute or how good he looks.

13. go up to her:Even if you are shy say to your self i can do it.Repeat it over and over and you'll get itAsk her for her name,say that you think she's cute and you want to get to know her,etc...Ask for her number but don't give her yours if she's a shy one.

14.good tip:talk about their favorite color,food exc talk about what made him/her like you and how you guys met

15.shake with the flirty smile:when u meet a girl first time just don t say hi move ur hand forward to shake her hand and give her flirty smile .it help s the the girl to think about u.

KISSING TIPS AND TECHNIQUES

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Kissing is one of the most basic forms of contact between two people who care for each other. Learn more about how to kiss and what a kiss says about you.

The best kiss ever!(for guys):lay her oh a bed,couch etc get ontop of her and make her feel safe then gently lick or peck her hot spots e.g neck, stummach, ear after that give her a sweet kiss on the lips(mouth closed) lift your head up and look her in the eyes and tell her something like "i love you!" softly and sweetly, after begin a slow processing of frech kissing, pick the pace up after a while and repeat kissing hot spots over and over, this will give you gil one thing to remember and soemthing never to forget. And hey if she lkes it that much maybe she'll do the same to you ;)

1st time kiss (guys):When its time for your 1st kiss, you will be scared. the 1st kiss is always the best. but ne ways when you kiss slowly do so and then back out. then once she goes toward you again, rub your girls tounge withurs(she will love it). then u will want more than just a kiss.lol.
A Good First Kiss...This is a good one for a first kiss. Guys, wait for the right time, then lean in slowly, slowly, (to make sure she's okay with it), then lightly brush your lips over hers, then give her a really, really soft kiss. Then look into her eyes. She'll totally move in closer for another kiss!
A Great Top Tip! ( For Guys! ):If you and your girl have had a reeeeeally long kiss just a second ago and you are about to lean in STOP. Put your finger on her lips reeeeeli reeeeeli softly and kiss her eyes and nose. Then make sure she keeps her lips closed and YOU kiss her softly on her lips. Also try kissing her cheek it makes them giggle :D lol
Abcs of kissing:When Kissing your man breathe through your nose and try to spell the Abcs out on his tounge... but dont get to into it because that would be kinda embarassing if you just sat there after he pulled away spelling out h...i...j...k... good luck
Adorable kiss:kiss him on the cheek first and then kiss him softly on his lips. but thats it. he'll want more for sure, but dont rush it.
Aggressive Kissing (girls only):When kissing ur b/f (make sure ur up against a wall or something)grab ur b/f's shirt or his belt hoops (where the belt goes through) and pull him closer and harder to you. Than start kissing him harder, dont forget to play w/ his tongue too!! Its better when hes grabbing ur butt because its a major turn on for the both of you!
Close your Eyes:Normally it doesn't matter at all if you keep your eyes open or closed during a kiss. People do kisses all sorts of different ways, it's a personal preference. But for the very first kiss, it tends to be better if you close your eyes. That way you don't get nervous about what you see going on around you, and you can focus solely on that one kiss.
Deep kiss:u first kiss ur guy slowly and allow u'r tongue and his tongue and when both of u r feeling hot u'll kiss fast one's tongue getting in someone's mouth.u'r guy will always think of u whenever he think of kissing someone.
Extemly cute kiss:While you and your guy are laying down start playing with his hair. and when he leans in... pull out. if he leans in again let him kiss you but only for a second or two. then pull away amd smile. If he wants more then u know you've got him... me and my botfriend did this and he found it so irresistable, so im sure your guy will too.
French kiss:when you are kissing try to make her seem like you want her and hold her as close as possible remember to not rush the kissing or pull her closer to you fast do everything gently and everything will go smoothly.
French Kiss (for teens):If you wanna know how then first u kiss with closed mouth when you are ready open your pstners mouth a littel bit and yours and put the tip of your tounge in their mouth and u can explore their mouth or just go in circles around their tounge.
upside Down kiss:if ur bf/gf is lyig down...go to them and kiss him/her (frenching) its fun cuz it feels kinda diff but its a turn on ;)
How to make a kiss unbearably sexy:Go in as if you are about to kiss your boyfriend on the lips, then brush your lips against his and kiss his chin, then brush your lips against his again and kiss another part of the face ie his nose, it will drive him wild keep teasing him, even go as far as the ear and he will try and kiss you back but dont let him! until you think he's endured enough...!!!!

SECRETS OF A LONG RELATIONSHIP

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1.Accept The Shortcomings:None of us are perfect 2.Admitting your wrong:Some days couples argue about stuff 3.Agree to Disagree:There are some issues that simply come down to personal choice 4.Be Aware of Stressful: TimesThere are always going to be times that your partner is simply stressed out 5.Be Independently Happy:You love your partner, of course. But you should not rely on your partner to MAKE you happy 6.Brush the haterz off:Don't let everybody in the relationship. It's you and him 7.Choose your Arguments Wisely:Each time you argue, it takes a portion of the joy out of your relationship. 8.Do Not Shout:Good relationships are between best friends who love and respect each other 9.Don't suffocate him:Say you get home from work before he does. Don't immediately jump him with a to-do list the second he gets through the door 10.Forgive :) there are times that at first u think, how could he? etc.. talk to him about it. 11.Foundation:Build a Solid Foundation It'll help for the future 12.Love You:Dont forget to say "I LOVE YOU" 13.Less of the Ex - Please:Avoid saying too much of your ex love, say only what you are asked and nothing 14.Staying Together:For you to last you must talk, have feelings for each other 15.Tell him how you feel:Make sure you tell your partner how you feel,and dont say things that you dont mean 16.Try not to say No:When ure date asks you something try not to say no

HOW TO MAINTAIN A HEALTHY AND SATISFYING RELATIONSHIP

2007-06-28T12:26:00.000+05:00

Relationships between you and the ones you love are important not only to your mental happiness. Relationships affect your mental and physical health. Having healthy relationships with people who are important to you is important. Keeping a relationship healthy is work whether it is a relationship between you and your child or between you and your spouse. Relationships involving a spouse (or significant other) can be the most difficult.

Here are some tips to help you maintain a healthy and satisfying relationship.

Relationships Don't Just Happen.Once you create a relationship you have to put forth the effort to keep the relationship going. The time and effort you put into your Relationship Is Reflected in the Quality of Relationship You Have. Relationships Are Need-Based.Both of You in the Relationship Have Needs. Focus on Your Partner's Needs. If You Are Unsure What Your Partner Desires Ask Him/her. Relationships Don't Have Room for Grudges.To Keep Your Relationship Strong You Need to Overlook Imperfections and Forgive Faults in Your Partner. Holding onto Grudges Makes it Impossible to Focus on Your Partner's Needs and Desires.Relationships That Last Take Time.Long-term relationships evolve slowly. Plan your relationship with long-term goals in mind. The old saying "haste makes waste," is true even for relationships. Don't waste your relationship by having an ugly break-up or divorce. Invest your time wisely into your relationship. Relationships Are Unique.People are unique so it should go without saying that relationships are unique also. The relationship you have with your children isn't the same as the relationship with your spouse. Relationships Build You, and your Partner, Up.Relationships are built on encouragement. When you are with your partner you should both strive to bring out the best in the other. Relationships Are Essential.Humans are social creatures. To keep your relationship strong you should remember that relationships are essential for both your and your partner's well-being you should build a supportive relationship that both of you can enjoy.Relationships Are for Two.For a relationship to survive both parties have to put forth effort. One sided relationships are nonexistent, unless you count stalking and unrequited love as relationships. You can not have a relationship with someone who is not interested in having one with you. When dealing with difficulties in your relationship remember there is only room for two in your relationship, this doesn't leave room for your mom or your father-in-law.

HERE ARE SOME TIPS TO MAINTAIN A RELATIONSHIP

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Tip 1:Be honest with each other. Don't lie to each other to avoid hurting each other's feelings... it's the worst thing you can do. Most of the time people will respect you more for it in the long run.

Tip 2:Always keep your word. If you say you are going to do something, do it, otherwise don't say you are going to do it. This also means keeping promises.

Tip 3:If you and your partner decide to date singles together, make sure you are both 100 % sure that's what you want. Also be certain that you both are making the decision and the decisions and consequences that come with it. Many times couples date another single person just out of curiosity or fantasy. If later on down the road one of you decides this is not what you expected or wanted (usually the girl) then you should both agree to stop and if one partner does not want to agree with it, then the relationship should end; period, end of discussion.

Tip 4:Be responsible for your own actions. Avoid blaming.

Tip 5:Do things together. This doesn't just mean watching TV, try cooking together or going out to dinner or the movies. Some other good things to do together... showering, exercising,etc...

Tip 6:Continue improving your relationship by learning from your mistakes. If you start to feel like a relationship isn't going anywhere or you start to feel powerless, it's time to move on. I'm not saying not to try and work things out, but normally you get the feeling when things aren't going to work out after having already tried, tried, and tried again.

Tip 7:Don't try to change each other, unless it's for the better. This does not mean you can mold the other person to fit your dream person... Life doesn't work this way, sorry dude. What it means is, for example, smoking... my partner HATES the fact that I smoke, but I feel it's my decision. He isn't being anything more than caring by asking me to try to quit, he's not telling me to quit, he's asking me to try or not to smoke with him in the car... things like this are actually healthy.

Tip 8:Remember that each relationship is different and each offers you something to learn from. NEVER ever compare your partner to a past partner.

Tip 9:Learn to appreciate each other and each other's feelings.

Tip 10:NEVER neglect your friends to spend time with your partner. The last thing you want to do is not have a friend around to talk to for advice or not have anyone around when the relationship ends.

Tip 11:Open-Communication - You should be able to feel confident talking to your partner about anything and you should be open to listening to your partner when he or she wants to talk with you. You can't have a relationship with out communication.

Tip 12:Be realistic. There is no perfect man or woman. Remember that everyone is unique for a reason, how boring would a person be if they were everything you had expected? There would be no differences, no learning experiences, you'd probably get pretty bored pretty fast.

IF A RELATIONSHIP DOESNT WORK

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When a relationship doesn’t work out move on. Don’t waste valuable time holding on. This will sabotage your getting into a relationship that will meet your needs –• Don’t seek revenge – when things don’t work out don’t hang on, let it go. Revenge makes you look desperate, lonely, and emotionally disturbed. Revenge is a way of staying attached. It never, never gets him back.

• Don’t stay friends with him.Staying friends with your ex is often an excuse to somehow stay connected to him it’s sometimes a woman’s inability to detach from a man who’s rejected her, or is not interested in having the kind of relationship that she wants.

Staying friends with an ex doesn’t always work and a person can get even more hurt or deeply disappointed at the very least. The man usually never “comes to his senses” by continuing to hang out with you, and realize what he’s missing. In fact, he’s more likely to fantasize and wonder about what you’re up to and who you’re with if he has no contact with you.
So unless you have children together, or are both involved in a business, I strongly suggest not to stay friends with someone who’s rejected you, or did not want the relationship you wanted.
• Don’t contact him.Do whatever it takes to not contact him. Do not e-mail him, I.M. him, go to his house, his job, or call him.Each time you connect with him it makes it more difficult to let go of him. The bond keeps recementing. The memory traces of him in your brain keep strengthening rather than eroding. That’s why the saying “time heals all wounds” is true. The less memories you have of your ex the easier it is to forget him. It’s mother nature doing her work.

Here’s some things you can do if you don’t want to call him.

- Do something to distract yourself

- Pamper yourself
- Have an emergency therapy session

- Think of all his negative qualities

- Think of all the possible negative things that can happen if you do call

- Try to meet new people

- Call someone in your support system

- Stop whatever trigger is causing you to call your ex

ABOUT GIRLS

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ABOUT BOYS

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LIFE IS A JOURNEY

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As you continue your journey of enlightment and self-discovery you may find somethings that made no sense at the time,might then begin to seem possible and perhaps even probable. What is important is that you aply yourself with an open mind and open heart.

Start to understand you are success and your happiness is unlimited only what you beleive is possible.The range of possibilities are only restricted by limited human understanding.Trust the Universe,it will show you the answers when you are open to receive them.

The fact is that they are only uncomfatable to you,no one else.There maybe times when you need to face up to some unpleasant truths.

You have nothing to gain by deceive yourself or others.When you take the easy option it will not lead to growth and enlightement.

So are you ready to take the risk and to take yourself on.

There are no Teachers,You are your own teacher.

Just as you would learn from a teacher you learn from yourself...